I am looking forward to working the 12 steps with a focus on SA. For the last 7 months I have been participating in AA with a dual focus, AA/SA. I have been reticent to join a SA group as they are coed and do not feel comfortable in that setting. I have attended a ARP group but find it does not have the necessary rigorous focus necessary to address the depth of my addiction. I have achieved some level of sobriety in AA (both for SA & AA) but my primary addiction is SA and need this specific focus.

As I commit to and focus on the SAL step work my seeking of lust in all forms will be relieved and I will begging to experience a new freedom from its grasp. A daily reprieve, that extends into long term sobriety. I hope to gain the trust of my wife through a living amends and stop managing behaviors related to the fear of outcomes of my most important relationships

A few months ago, i would have said that I am afraid that the work would not produce the results as countless other efforts have failed (mostly driven by self-will). Today, i do not have that fear. I am afraid that things between my wife and I will not work out. That she will decide to separate and divorce. I have done more that enough to give her every justification. I do not blame her for any decision she may make. I also know that my recovery is not dependent on her behavior or decisions. I am committed to living in recovery. It is hard to keep separate. Reliving the betrayal story and her participation in recovery groups is fearful. Not from the standpoint of additional discovery, I feel I have been honest and forthcoming, I fear that each time it is relived, the pain is renewed and her decision to stay is re-evaluated. So far, we are together in the same house but the math for her is daunting. I understand. There is a level of devastation can seem insurmountable.

Because I am experiencing it. The Steps are an amazing miracle and the light that comes through working them is more powerful than any thing I have tried.

Yes. I find that as I progress in recovery, the first 3 steps are part of daily contemplation, meditation and prayer. Constant challenges come and allow me to renew my commitment to let go of my addiction.

Daily, rigorous study, meditation, prayer, goal setting, follow through and fulfilling commitments have become part of my routine. Working the SA 12 steps will help me learn more about the specifics of my addictive sexual patterns and be a welcome change to anything i have tried.

I am willing to leave behind anything it takes to live in daily recovery. I pray for a new normal.

Si tengo el deseo de trabajar los pasos porque se que me van a ayudar a tener más conciencia de la gravedad de la enfermedad que tengo, de lo impotente que soy, del daño que está haciendo en mi vida y en la de mi familia y de las oportunidades que estoy desperdiciando de ser feliz, tener paz y ser libre de esta adicción. Creo que esta herramienta me puede ayudar a organizarme a tener un trabajo diario de los pasos.

Me gustaría poder ser más consciente de mi mismo y de Dios y obtener la fortaleza para enfrentar las raices de mi enfermedad. Me gustaría poder llegar a mantenerme sobrio, tener paz, sentirme libre, conectado con mi poder superior, relacionarme mejor con los demás (especialmente con mi familia) y poder llegar a ser alguien del que no me averguence ni sienta autoodio o rechazo.

Tengo miedo de la rigurosa honestidad con mi esposa, el dolor que me provoca cambiar mis hábitos, el recordar el dolor que causé, de verme a mi mismo tal como soy, de fallar otra vez y que este nuevo intento tampoco funcione.

El programa es un programa de 24hs y la herramienta de los pasos es fundamental. El trabajo de ayer no me sirve para hoy ni para mañana, por eso debo hacer el trabajo hoy para mantenerme sobrio. Cuando en el pasado trabajé los pasos diariamente fue el tiempo que más sufrí pero más sobrio estuve.

Quiero dejar la adicción pero tengo miedo de entregarle mi voluntad y mi vida a un poder superior. Quiero hacerlo y sé intelectualmente que es lo que debo hacer, pero quizás la enfermedad me hace tener mucho miedo del dolor que va a causarme este proceso de cambio. Siento que ahora es el momento porque estoy tocando fondos emocionales y físicos y que si no comienzo realmente la recuperación, lamentablemente voy a perder a mi familia, mi matrimonio, mi membresía en la iglesia y quizás termine literalmente con mi vida.

Me gustaría poder reconciliarme con mi religión y empezar a potenciar las herramientas que me da la iglesia con el programa. Me gustaría poder encontrar un sponsor que realmente entienda lo que significa ser miembro de mi iglesia, estar casado y tener esta enfermedad. Quisiera poder trabajar los pasos diariamente, tener sus sugerencias y poder realmente hacer los cambios necesarios un día a la vez.

Estoy dispuesto a dejar hábitos como el comer compulsivamente, actividades que me sacan de la realidad como los juegos, las series de TV, youtube y otros pasatiempos que no me conectan con mi poder superior.

Yes I am, so I don't feel trapped anymore

I will be happier and feel free

That this might not help me

I am unsure about this, but I feel it will most likely help because I will more focused on it

I am ready, and I am ready to do it now because why wait

I will by one myself to do it everyday

My old habits of allowing myself to be in position to do it

I need Changes in my life.

hoping to understand what im going through

afraid of the unknown

too busy not enough time

yes

hoping to heal

leave anything thats holding me back

Yes, i am looking forward to the steps because it will help me to sobriety and a better life.

I hope i can get sobriety and that I can get my life in order, i want to be happy again.

I'm afraid that i might slip back into my addiction and get into bad habits again.

I feel like it will help me get into a good routine and help me everyday to have better habits

Yes. I need to let go in order to get better I can't half ass this.

I am admitting my life is unmanageable and that I can not change alone i need God and family to help me.

I am willing to leave behind my old ways and bad habits to get to a better place I need to change and if I don't soon i will not change.

yes and no, I think theres a big part of me that is holding on to my addiction as its "Kept me safe"

I become myself again, and am free.

it doesn't work. Or I dont like the outcome if it does.

I think it would work if I worked it everyday just like any other muscle if you work at it consistently you will get the desired results.

No I dont think I am, I think I am so scared that it will just get me back to my controlled life.

I am doing this for me.

practically everything that doesn't serve me.

Yes, because I’ve already been working the steps for 7 months and know they are good steps that will help me overcome my addiction.

That I learn to overcome my addiction. That I become more in control of my life and become my best self.

I am afraid that I will fail. That the steps will be too hard. That I’ll take the easy path and give up on this hard path.

Because they are proven to work. They make sense to me. I agree with them. And I see that by diving into each step, there is a real benefit to that step that makes sense to me.

Yes I am. Unfortunately the timing is because I was found out and now need to fix my life if I want to keep the people in my life.

People know my secrets. I have people depending on me. I do a lot better in the light.

Pornography and masturbation. A comfortable life of little effort.

No. I lack discipline to wake up and do things consistently. It is lots of work to make it through sponsorship

I hope I change my mind, become stronger, more compassion, have hope.

Losing everything. Feeling like a failure

It will work because many before have found great success when they’ve worked them across many addictions. I need the stability

Yes. Because I’ve hit a new bottom and I’m scared. I am struggling heavily.

Following this curriculum. Being on medications.

My pride.

Yes, I am looking forward to working the steps as it will allow me to right my wrongs, as well as share my story with people.

I hope I can finally shed the immense amount of shame that I have held onto for so long.

I am afraid I will lose my family and that I will be judged on my acting out behaviors.

Working at my own pace will allow me to really give everything thought, prayer and full answers.

Yes, I am ready to give everything to my Higher Power. Now is the time for me to rebuild my relationship with God.

I won’t make excuses and will stop being “lazy”.

I am worried about the 12 Steps but I know that I have to take these steps in order to get to the point where I can be better and become a better version of myself.

I hope I can surrender all the things that I need to and can become a person in active recovery instead of a person that is trying to manage everything on his own.

People might not like me or not want to be around me knowing that I am a sex addict or someone that struggles with sexual compulsive behaviour.

I think by surrendering this all I am acknowledging my process was innately faulty as I sought to trust my own wisdom over that of others.

Yes. My own reason and mind got me here. I cannot trust my own judgment and I am ready to seek Gods guidance completely.

My efforts are not a show. They are a natural part of my overall desire to improve and not let this addiction define my life going forward.

Everything. Nothing needs to be as it was. I need to become a new man.

Yes, because I feel like this daily focus is what I’ve been missing to allow me to truly be in recovery instead of just having periods of sobriety with lust still lurking and true recovery not being accomplished.

I hope that it provides me with new insights on the root causes of my addiction and the tools to remain in recovery permanently.

The only fear I have is about the possibility that it won’t work or that I won’t do my part to make it work.

I think it will work, though I’m just not sure yet to what extent. Will it do a better job of helping me even avoid lapses? I really hope so.

Yes. Because nothing I’ve tried for the past three decades has worked permanently.

A daily focus on recovery, but viewing that effort in a positive light (recovery, healing, spiritual strength) rather than a negative one (having to deal with a problem).

My unwillingness to do whatever it takes. I’ll live by both my top and bottom lines, which includes daily step work.

I am looking forward to doing these steps. I'm at the point in my recovery where I'm taking all I can get so that I can be sober and in long-term recovery. I want to do these steps to heal myself and others who I've harmed. I'm excited to make amends and start healing these wounds

I hope that I enter a state where my addiction doesn't control me, but rather, I make continual decisions to distance myself from triggers and acting out. I hope that I feel a deep sense of healing, and that externality wounds start healing also, so that my personality is in alignment with how I'm living my life

I'm afraid that I've caused irreparable damage to some people, and they never forgive me. I'm afraid that my wife is ultimately unable to forgive me and distances herself from me. I'm afraid of the possibility of losing her, the person I fell in love with 12 years ago, permanently.

I feel like working the steps each day will allow me to remain in permanent, long-term recovery. I'm about 98% sure that step work is the only way to truly and fully heal from my sex addiction. If I walk down the path of letting my addiction control me again, then I know I will lose everything. This is my last lifeline, my last chance, my last opportunity to heal myself and save my family and my wife. The one thing I want in life is to be a trustworthy man so that my wife and family can rely on me. I want to show my kids how a good husband treats his wife, and how a man should treat his kids, especially and only when it's hard.

Yes. I wasn't ready before for fear of my future career. Even after graduating, I was too afraid of the consequences. It took me getting caught a fourth time, my wife threatening divorce, and kicking me out of the house for me to 1) make this concerted effort, 2) let go of my addiction, and 3) take the steps necessary to turn my will over to God. I may not have hit rock bottom, but I got way too close, and now I have a perfect understanding of what rock bottom actually looks like for me.

This time, I'm working and improving my mindset- I'm trying (and improving) to be as open as possible to my wife and others who I've trusted to know this about me. I'm trying to connect to myself and my wife on a deeper level, so that I can understand the root of the problem. I'm never going to stop going to meetings, therapy, talking to people who I trust and will listen, or connecting to my wife so that I can forever have this addiction die in the light.

I want to leave lust in all its forms behind. Not only do I want to stop acting out outside of my marriage completely and forever, but I also want to remove lustful thoughts on a day to day basis. I want to leave behind the shell of a person I was before, and become a new, improved version, who is in recovery from sex addiction.

This is my second time working the 12 Step Curriculum. I have been much more motivated this time because One of My Sponsees challenged me. I can't afford to not be on top of my Game. Challenge was accepted. Working Step Three now.

Gain knowledge of my thoughts and expressions. To marvel at how God has truly transformed my life. To share this knowledge with others.

I might come to love this so much I lose interest in other activities to improve my body such as exercise.

I am learning that leaning into the Bit is the only way I can finish projects. Praying a series of Prayers for a year, Working the Steps, etc. All of these make me better focused and willing to take on difficult task. Once started I can be very persistent and focus. I love this curriculum for that alone.

Yes, my life depends on it! I was literally raised from the ashes. I know that Much that is Given Much will be Demanded. I am so Grateful to be in Recovery and am up to the challenge.

I am on a mission to share the miracle of my Rising from the Ashes (Phoenix) My life to dedicated to following my Lord and helping those still stuck in the Darkness.

This is exactly what I did DoS 1/26/24. I have a new life and a new beginning. Great is the Love that was poured into my Soul. My Job is to pass it on.

Yes I am looking forward to working the steps. Because I want to commit daily effort towards my recovery and surrender my lust to God and recover one day at a time.

I hope I learn the steps that help me Pray and surrender my challenge with lust and unwanted sexual behavior with the steps

Slippery and going back to my old habits of lust and unwanted sexual behavior

I will guide me daily, steps by step to heal and recover from my unwanted sexual behavior with Gods help and support

Yes I am really ready to let go of my addiction and turn my will over completely to the care of Higher Power. I have been broken open, really deep,
I have come to realize the impact of my addiction and the effect on my marriage and our relationship also my relationship to God and my morality

My wife is my constant reminder, my shame and guilt of how much I have heart her and betrayed our trust all the 10 year I have known her,
we every cry, her anguish, her traumas and betrayals, it was time I clean myself to be a better man for her and support system for her and emotional safety man
for her and for the family we plan to create together with the help of God.

I am willing to leave behind, lusting over women on the streets, Gym, stores, movies, instagram and porn. Over every opportunity I use to objectify and lust over women
everywhere and feed my hunger of Lust, at the cost my beautiful love of my wife and God that I love and fear.

Yes, I am. I want to grow as a man, husband and father and I understand that going through these steps may help.

To be able to understand my emotions better and why I cope the way I do. Ultimately I hope to understand myself better

The truth sets one free but it can also be startling. I am afraid of the raw truth some of which I have been hiding from in numbness for a long time

Because it has worked for others and I believe it is worth giving it a shot.

Yes, I feel I have the power through God to finally do this.

Action. Talking to my sponcer, making connections, jounral entries, new coping methods

Seeking lust in non-tradtional ways.

To think clearly again. To feel calm. To connect better woth others. To have more meaningful relationships. To have oeace and happiness in my marriage and family. To feel God's presence in my life and have peace in my heart.

I hope I will be able to end a life-long pattern of using porn to cope with my emotions. I also hope to realize my life's potential and fulfill my life's purpose so I can rest in oeace one day.

That i will fail like I have so many times before.

I think it will work because I need daily reminders. I fear it wont work because o struggle with being able to stick to any task in a regular basis. I have never gone longer in my life than 4 months without porn and I regularly struggle with being consistent in my routine.

I am ready to start again and ready to try again. I hope that is enough for now. But if I don't change, I stand to loose my business and continue repeating a pattern of causing pain, stress and sorrow for my new family.

I have a supportive wife who loves me and prays for me. I have learned so much over the years.

I hope I am saying the truth when I say that I will leave behind whatever I need to.

Yes and no. I am looking forward to bettering myself and to never engaging in my addiction or addictive qualities. I am not looking forward to self-introspection, assignments, and expectations.

I hope to have a complete transformation in my life and that I will become the man that my family needs.

I am afraid I might fall back into my pride cycle and addictive nature when my human side takes over.

I believe the accountability factor of daily step work and working with a sponsor will work for me because I am motivated now to do it. I believe it won't work because I struggle with creating new habits and being consistent. I allow the natural man to take over historically. Historically I am a failure in the most important aspects of life: Spirituality, emotions, relationships, family and personal self-care.

I am ready! I am losing my family because of it, and if I don't have them, I have nothing. I surrender my life and my heart over to HIM. I have had a spiritual awakening in the wake of losing my kids and now finalizing the loss of my marriage. I have to surrender to him and have him take away ALL of my character defects. I am humbled and broken.

This time, I can see with heaven's eyes my destructive habits and behaviors to the people I love in my life. They need me and I need me to be the best version of myself I can give without any addictions and anger.

I am willing to leave behind everything! I am willing to leave behind my laziness, my pride, my addiction, my sexuality, and my will.

No, because this will require introspection and making mistakes

That my desire to turn to lust will begin to fade away.

I will spend all the time and money, and still be unable to beat this problem

I believe having accountability will help me, but I also know that I’ve tried hundreds of times and failed.

Yes, I’ve hit a new rock bottom and want this to be the last rock bottom ever.

I’m doing this for me, because my life is out of control

My old way of looking at people and the world

I am, so that I can continue the healing process.

I hope that I am able to heal, grow, and learn to support myself and my wife better.

I am afraid I might go through the steps and not experience change.

I feel that the structure of it will work for me.

I am tired of living in anxiety and in fear of my addiction.

I will have help.

I am willing to leave behind my old assumptions.

I'm looking forward to recovery

Divine intervention lol. Hope is not a strategy, I intend to create new patterns.

The usual pattern of me doing nothing.

I've already proven the steps don't work when I don't work them.

Odaat

inputting these answers to this questionnaire is different for me

I don't do "new normal" that's a very triggering phrase for me. When the ship is sinking, anything and everything that
isn't absolutely vital gets tossed overboard. A little reframing of things or getting outside of my comfort zone should do
me some good.

I'm looking forward to recovery

Divine intervention lol. Hope is not a strategy, I intend to create new patterns.

The usual pattern of me doing nothing.

I've already proven the steps don't work when I don't work them.

Odaat

inputting these answers to this questionnaire is different for me

I don't do "new normal" that's a very triggering phrase for me. When the ship is sinking, anything and everything that isn't absolutely vital gets tossed overboard. A little reframing of things or getting outside of my comfort zone should do me some good.

Yes. I want to finally be rid of my demons, my weaknesses, and my guilt. I want to live a life worthy of my wife and worthy of being a good father to my children.

I learn to be disciplined and not just motivated. That I can be strengthened, not to never be tempted, but to resist temptation. I hope to see notable progress that further encourages me to continue on. I hope to be the man that I know I can be; for my wife, for my children, for my God, and for myself.

I am afraid of relapsing. I am afraid of the discouragement that can come from relapsing. I am afraid of temptations getting bigger. I am afraid of failing.

I have been attending the meetings for just over a month. I look forward to these meetings now and they have been very encouraging. I want to dive in and get all I can from this program.

Yes, it's been far too long. I have children now, a whole family. I should've made better choices before, but it needs to happen now.

Not only will I do this course, attend the meetings, and learn from others in a similar situation; but I will be honest with my wife about my struggles and any relapses. If she is willing, I will lean on her in times of trouble and I pray that she will still be willing to support me.

My sins and my pride. My excuses and my secrecy. My anger and my lack of empathy.

Yes, because this addiction has been the monkey on my back for over 40 years. I see others who have recovered following the steps and I want to accomplish the same. I want to live in sobriety.

That I build the necessary boundaries and adopt the essential tools that work for me in maintaining sobriety.

Relapsing

It will keep focusing on sobriety featured as an important part of my daily routing.

I am. I am tired of being stuck.

I am willing to put in the work

My reliance on the addiction to cope with stress or disappointment.

Yes, I am looking forward to working the step in this daily program. My life is busy and I NEED to not loose my focus on working my recovery everyday.

I hope to be able to heal. I hope to be able to have the ability to look at myself and the discovery the causes of the holes in my life that I filled with pornography, acting out with sex and masturbation. I hope to have the courage to release this addiction that comforted my pain and loneliness and find better ways to cope with the discomfort.

That I fall have a relapse and let my anxieties and depression over welm me and lead me to old behaviors.

For my personality type I the sooner I get into a routine the more comfortable I feel. I have the self discipline.

This addiction became a false God for me. I worship it and sacrificed for it. I loved it more than anything else and what I thought was comfort in the end was more pain and craziness in my life, and it hurt the people that I love the most. It's time that I let this good friend that I have had for most of my life GO. I can't turn to anyone else in my life. I and I alone need to stand and reach for the only one that can walk this journey with me and that is my Heavenly Father.

Medication. Physiatrist and therapists and a marriage counselor. an understanding that this lifelong addiction is a sickness and not a sin. Each day I need to give myself grace that I am imperfect and I need to try. I love myself and I am worth the effort to become that best self I can be.

self soothing with porn and masturbation.
finding a new way to cope with the frustrations I experience everyday. Loving and respecting my wife even though we are different people and bring to our marriage unwanted baggage from our childhoods.