Si quiero trabajar los pasos porque se que es la medicina que necesito para recuperarme y al no tener padrino, puede ser una buena herramienta para que gane sobriedad.

Espero que pueda conectar con la realidad, salir de la fantasía y comenzar a conectar conmigo mismo y con un poder superior. Espero poner en acción el programa ya que creo que hasta ahora, no he puesto acción y eso me ha tenido en un estado de consumo permanente.

Tengo miedo de tener que hablar con mi esposa y mis líderes de mis recaidas. Tengo miedo de perder mi familia, de la respuesta que puedan tener los demás, del rechazo y del dolor.

Creo que me va a hacer bien trabajar los pasos diariamente y dedicar la mañana a poder hacer cosas por mi recuperación. Siento que debo priorizar la recuperación en mi vida porque todo se está cayendo a pedazos y necesito darme cuenta que la recuperación tiene que tener prioridad absoluta sobre todo.

Creo que llegué a un punto que ya no tengo más opciones, me he quedado solo y al único que puedo acudir que siento que me escucha es a mi poder superior. Se me acabó la fuerza de voluntad, no tengo más fuerzas y creo que lo único que me queda por hacer es buscar sinceramente a Dios.

Estoy dispuesto a poner a Dios en el centro de mi vida, quiero desarrollar el hábito de orar y meditar para empezar a construir una relación con el. Se que va a llevar tiempo, pero no tengo más opciones.

Me siento tan deprimido y mal que no se que dejar atrás, supongo que todo lo que no me hace bien, pero en este momento solo me quiero concentrar en lo nuevo.

Sure thing, its been so long since I worked rhe steps like this. We will see how effective it is.

I want to organize my life, come closer to God, repent, work on being more presentable for mt wife and kids.

Get caught up in the past trauma that I have from working the steps without a helpful spouse, one who put me down as often as possible.

I think they will work, it works when I work it, I have worked them in the past and it worked really well. I really had not problems I enjoyed it I did accomplish the things I have added above and if I stay sober longer I think things will even get better.

I don't think so. I really enjoy in the worst way my addiction. I want to hang on to it because I want that safe place to go to.
Its not been as safe as of recently though so I hope to move on and actually have a safe place to go.
Why now, part of it is because bishop wanted me to do some things that I know will bring me back into the problem and I want to do the things that will help me stay sober forever or for much longer, uplifting loving not shame

There is not a lot that needs to be different. When I worked the steps before I got sober and stayed sober until I decided to stop being sober.

Yes

not really, I prefer the easy path, the one of least resistance, and that has not worked for me... ever. Jumping back into the steps is necessary

that I become the best version of me

I'll end up alone for the rest of my life despite becoming the best me

it has worked for me before and for others

not really, and I need to get there

no idea

this is where I get stuck, leaving old prejudices behing

Yes, I've been in in person meetings for about 10 months and even though I have kept up with my sobriety, I haven't really worked on the actual 12 step program.

Give me a better understanding of my addiction and a have healthy mental lifestyle for me and my family

Something might happen in my life that will lead to me relapsing

Because I feel like living the steps daily will help with my recovery and daily struggle with lust

Yes, I have been ready for a while now, just now ready to actually work the steps

I will actively be working the 12 steps daily

My impure thoughts and objectifying women. I'm willing to leave behind my past mistakes and to never go back to doing those things ever again

Yes and no. I recognize that "half measures avail me nothing", and I feel like working the steps can help me get away from half measures, and get me better focused on recovery. No, because of feeling like I'm already finding it tough to make time for work, church, family, exercise and other commitments. I think that will work out as I learn to manage my time better.

I hope to change my heart such that I will have more of a desire to turn my heart and my will over to God and my Savior, Jesus Christ. And that I will gain the willingness and desire to turn to them and not turn to this divisive behavior.

My fear is that I will continue as I have for the past ~34 years of lapses and relapses with only small periods of sobriety in between. I.e. that something in me is broken, not allowing myself to see the fruits of lasting sobriety and joyful recovery.

I had a period of time with a sponsor where we were working on the steps of recovery for a period of several months where I saw a long period of sobriety and felt the joys of recovery. I saw it work in my life during that period of time, and I'm hopeful that I can have that again.

I really WANT to be ready and believe and turn my will over completely to God. I want to let go of doubts in my mind and allow increased faith that I personally can have this miracle. Why now? Because I want to be free from this addiction and compulsion and enjoy some good decades of life without this in my life before my time on life is through and I'm brought before my God to account for how I've loved and served Him and others while I've been here.

I'm working with a sponsor, and I want to try the promise "it works when I work it". By missing the part of working the steps in recovery, I feel I was giving a "half measure" even though the things I was doing, connecting with God in prayer, connecting with other brothers in SAL recovery through phone calls and texts, and going to meetings nearly weekly, were good helps. Working these steps with my sponsor can help me be "all in".

I'm willing to give the time needed to work the steps in here. I'm willing to surrender lust. I'm willing to surrender resentment. I'm praying for willingness to surrender self; selfishness; ego. I want to surrender my old ways of turning to my own self will and looking for old patterns to cope when times are tough.

Yes

That I make the permanent changes to my life to change my default character defects

My work and family responsibilities will make his challenging

Yes

Surrender and commitment

My pride

Learning about the self absorbed and the recovery circles this morning, really helped my motivation to work this program on the daily basis

I hope to gain the self-awareness to know when I’m in the self absorbed space so I can transition quickly to the recovery circle.

I’m afraid I might get prideful or resentful as I think about my past, my addiction, and my family of origin. I’ve got to watch for that and use the tools to stay out of that part of my head.

I have tried to, in the past, just do one meeting a week or maybe just read one book and make it the answer, but the addiction is too strong and it must be worked daily minute by minute hour by hour.

Yes, I’m ready to surrender to my higher power, I know I am powerless over this addiction, and I know I must need God’s help to succeed

Morning routine is set, meetings are on the calendar, and Cathy can see them, and I’m holding myself accountable with tools on my phone, and check-in with my wife, my groups, in the near future, my sponsor, and my therapist.

Pride, dishonesty, being unaccountable, focusing on shame, and fear.

Yes. I know it works when I work it. I need the framework to focus and process. It is becoming something I look forward doing at the end of each day. I have thought about starting my day with step study but I haven't transitioned, yet.

I hope to beire consistent with loving and serving my wife and kids. I hope to grow as a more mature and honest person. I hope to be able to face and do hard things with empathy and mindfulness for others. I hope to be able to show up for my wife, my kids, my employer, and my community.

I don't know, really. Maybe that I have wasted my time but so far, working the steps has been very effective with dealing with life in a healthier way.

I have learned that focusing on today, just today, allows me to be more present with my step work. If I think too much about the past or the future then I don't do my step work as often. Also, without daily step work, I'm more disregulated, less organized, and I struggle more to find inner peace and balance. I am less able to show up for others in mindful ways.

I am today. I am relying on my Higher Power right now. My will is His. I stop and surrender because I know if I try to go on my own I will turn back to lust and that just isn't effective.

I will allow myself to feel emotions without being impulsive, judgemental, resentful, or numbing out. This seems impossible but for this moment I'm going to do my best.

I am willing to leave my inner chaos and self-destructive beliefs behind me and focus on how I can serve and help others.

Yes because it will help me find sobriety and peace that I need.

I hope it will allow me to gain a better understanding of myself.

I'm afraid that I won't like what i find out about myself and that it will not actually help me and I'll be stuck with this addiction the rest of my life.

I feel like it will help me stay consistent and honest with myself and my wife if i am able to make myself do it every day.

Yes I am. I choose now because yesterday isn't an option any more and i can only take it one day at a time from this day moving forward.

I will set reminders and truly try to commit to doing the work.

I'm willing to leave my old self behind and be a new person for the better.

I have worked them in the past. Have had multiple relapse and want to start over.

I can learn tools to gain long term sobriety

I repeat past issues and lies. Live a double life again.

I fell it is like daily prayer. It is a need in my soul.

Yes. I got caught again and need to work my recovery daily

Yes. I have gathered more tools and meetings to attend

Yes. I feel very strongly that I need to make it different this time

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I am looking forward to working the steps. I have dabbled in the 12 steps in the past but not with my whole heart in it. I
have learned a lot about this addiction and its tole not just on me but the one's I love and those around me. My life has
been controlled by this addiction my whole life and I am tired. I want to feel some sort of peace and happiness in my
life.

I hope that as I work the step I can dig deep within myself and truly work the steps to find my true self and build a
relatioship with my Heavenly Father. I know I can't do it without him.

I am afraid that I will see some success and then try to take the wheel myself. As I want to fix things that are broken
myself.

I tend to take the path of least resistance. Working the steps daily will keep me engaged and give me daily tasks to
think about and work on.

I have been in my addiction pretty much my whole life. I struggle with what turning my will over to the Lord looks / feels
like. But I know that "I" have tried many times thinking that I can do this without help. I know the Lord has blessed me
throughout my life even though I felt like I didn't deserve it. I am willing to turn my will completely over to the Lord.
There has been a lot of turmoil in my life the last few years and much of it was caused by my actions. I have lost my
peace, happiness, sense of being and I don't even know who I

I have never really worked the 12 step program. I have learned a lot about my addiction, the 12 step program and
myself the las few years. This time I am at a point in my life where I feel more lost than ever before. I don't know what
peace feels like or what even makes me happy. I truly don't have anything left to lose and I truly am tired of feeling lost
with no end in site.

I am willing to strive to let go of the old habits and beliefs that have held me hostage for so long. The pornography and
lust so I can truly feel what real love is for myself.

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I need something to help in my daily recovery.

Dedication to and understanding of how the 12 Steps will provide daily and long-term recovery in my life.

I am not afraid of any negative actions concerning my recovery.

I am attending meetings twice a week, but I need something more.

Yes, I have been ready for years but have not been successful. I need this daily help for consistent long-term recovery.

Additional dedication.

Lying about my recovery to myself and to others.

Yes. And no. I am afraid of the change in my life. I am afraid to what people may think of me. I excited to the possibility of finding a different way of living and feeling peace.

I hope that I find confidence in myself and I can live without feeling I need to meet other people's standards.

I am afraid that I will lose my wife. I am afraid that my loved ones will not support me.

It will work for me because I have time in my day to do this work.

Yes. I want to let go of the false control I have and live a life that God wants for me. I will be either dead, in prison, or in a worse mental state if I continue my life.

I am not going to focus on perfection. I will make an effort. I will also celebrate my efforts.

My behavior to live in comfort, and avoid the small but challenging circumstances and hurdles. My feelings and thoughts of what should and could happen. My desires to please the ones around me to feel better of myself.

Yes, so I can learn, progress, share with others.

That I can progress and have less desire for lust and a larger desire to help and serve

I might have to discuss more trauma with my wife

to help me with continual improvement

yes I am, I have had enough, I know there is only pain there

I will work harder and more consistent

lust

Yes I am looking forward to working the steps because I have been wanting a structured way to overcome my addiction and have never known how to actually do it. With this I have direction, and hopefully I can get the blessings of working the steps.

I hope I strengthen in recovery, become a better husband, and become a better person individually as I work the steps. That I may grow to be the me I want to be.

I am afraid during the steps I may somehow worsen my relationship. I am afraid too that no matter what I do, my relationship is already ruined. That I will have to go through all of this pain, become a better person, and then be left anyways because of the things I’ve already done.

I know that I become complacent in what my active recovery looks like. I believe that working the steps on a day to day basis on the online curriculum will allow me to continue strong regardless of the time that passes.

I am, and I feel like I have been, yet I haven’t made the changes I need, I haven’t done the things I’ve needed. I can’t lose the life I have… I don’t want to be an astranged father to my daughter. I don’t want to be a divorced man. Yet if I truly was willing to turn it all over.. I would give all of these desires up.

This time, I will complete the whole program. I will complete steps 4-12, and I will continue to live in my recovery by visiting meetings and with my therapist. I will also create better boundaries, better relationships with others and overall a more open and honest relationship with my spouse.

I am willing to leave behind everything that was my addiction. Everything that was my faults and all of my character weaknesses.

Kind of. I am looking forward to seeing what happens when I do work them and what I can learn. Not so much all of the writing I might need to do. But I am curious to learning about all of the steps as I work them and to see if they actually work.

I hope I will change little by little and eventually lose the desire to act out my addiction. I also hope that I will be more integrated with myself so I know what my strengths and weaknesses are so I can make better decisions about what to do with my life that I might be more fulfilled.

Not really afraid of anything. Maybe that I will need to give something up that I enjoy.

I wouldn't say it won't work for me. Some days I might forget, but I actually am optimistic that working on it each day will be doable.

Sure, I suppose. I'm looking forward to learning more about what that means. I feel like something is missing in my life, and I am old enough that I am starting to lose opportunities to change forever and want to be free from my addiction and have my Higher Power fix my life before it's too late to do anything. Not sure if that makes sense, but it's what I'm feeling.

I will be working the 12 steps.

Maybe the amount of time I spend on games. I'm sure other things will occur to me as well later.

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Yes. I want to achieve long term sobriety.

I hope my pride and resentments will lessen and go away. I want to be able to trust God.

I’m afraid of failing and continuing to live in Depression, Shame, and Guilt.

I need to do something daily because what I have been doing isn’t working.

Yes. I want to be my authentic self again. I want to think clearly. I want to be free from Lust or at least not let it have control over me.

I want to do something daily. I’ve been struggling with what that should be. I hope that this program will work for me.

I want to shut the door completely to the behaviors that landed me where I am. I want to have more control over my life.

Yes. I am ready to stop living in this addiction. It is ruining my life and my relationship with my spouse. It does not make sense to continue on the path that I was on. I think I have finally hit my rock bottom. I don’t want to get ahead of my recovery and I know that if I do that’s when I get complacent.

I hope I can grow to understand the root causes, weed them out, and then work to never let them happen again. I hope it gives me empathy towards my wife and gives me the strength to sit without trying to minimize
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I am afraid of being accountable and dealing with the fall out of my poor decision making. I also am afraid that I will feel shame and I am afraid of relapse.

I need to get the can do attitude and work on this step work everyday by. I’m definitely know the best sobriety I have had was during the time after the most recent bad relapse when I was able to put together 90 days of sobriety.

Yes. I have hit th bottom of the barrel and the only way is up. I can let it go and surrender it to the God of my understanding.

I have found a temporary sponsor and I will keep doing the step work and other action items of making a call a day. I am ready to put in daily step work and becomes the best version of me.

Everything. However I also know that the best way to practice a new normal is to develop healthy habits. This includes doing daily step work and a new routine. I am willing to let go and replace all my old addiction habits and try build new ones!

Yes and no. Yes because I have had glimpses of and know that my life is so much better when I can get recovery. I am excited to be able to live that life. No because it's hard and there is a part of me that still doesn't want to recover and wants to hold onto my addiction.

I hope that I can reclaim my life as it should be. I hope that I will come to believe in hope and recovery and goodness. I hope that I will be able to be at peace with myself. I hope that I will be able to have the success in my life that has been stifled because of my addiction.

First and foremost, I'm afraid that I'll fail. I am very hard on myself, and I'm worried that if I fail hard, then I'll really fall down the hole. I'm also afraid that I won't be able to cope with life without my addiction, which has helped me my entire life in coping, even though it's in a negative way. I logically know that working the steps will allow me to cope much better, but the emotional side says that might not be true.

I feel like it will work because it has in the past to a limited extent. I say to a limited extent because I've never kept doing it long enough for it to work for a longer time. So I know that as I work the steps daily and do the other things daily that I need to do, that it can work.

I honestly don't know if I'm really ready to turn my will over to my higher power, but I'm going to try and become ready and want to as I work the steps. All I know right now is that I'm going to work them and people have said that when the steps are worked, then the will to turn over my addiction will come. And I need to do it now before I fall even more into my addiction and into places that I might have a hard time breaking free from.

This time I'm doing this structured program with a sponsor so that I have accountability and an easy way to work the program. Not just trying to muddle through it. So I think that will make a huge difference.

I'm willing to leave behind my security blanket as it were. Leave behind the thing that I know has worked for so many years to help me cope with life. And by leaving that behind, the new normal will be having to truly deal with my emotions and with life in a healthier way.

Yes I want to completely overcome this!

I want to change my heart

I’m afraid I won’t change

I think it will work for me. I need to pace my recovery.

Yes, I have been out of control for too long. I want a virtuous and solid mind.

I am accountable for my thoughts that I indulge and pursue.

My laziness and my resentment and my fear of speaking my mind.

Yes. I want to work the steps because I want daily recovery and method to follow.

I would like to change. That includes long term sobriety as well as becoming a better person and actually have a relationship with God.

Nothing.

They will work because it changes the way I think. I know what this feels like because I have had good sobriety before. I want to keep changing so I can be happy.

Yes. Because I want to be happy, I want my wife to be happy, my children to be happy and to serve others.

Because I let up consistently. I want to keep up the effort daily.

Lack of effort and procrastination. I want to grow it every day.