Yes, I truly am. It's been a good 5 1/2 years since I have and every time I work them I get a great deal out of them. Especially with a sponsor or another person that has been through them. I learn something new every time and the fundamentals and outline of the 12 starts are the best Life 101 program out there.

That I improve my relationship with my higher power. Improve my relationship with myself and increase my assets and let go of more defects and liabilities. And finally improve my relationships with others and start giving back and sponsoring others and being of service in any way possible.

I'm not really afraid of what might happen. I have enough experience to know what to expect to an extent. Some of the truths uncovered can be uncomfortable at times but it's all worth working through and growing in my recovery.

Working the steps daily or any recovery activity can work because I am focused on the solution and can connect me to my Higher Power and to others in the program.

Absolutely. It's pretty much now or never once again and I want a good life and to be able to show up as my best self with my loved ones and fellow human beings.

All I can do is strive for honesty, open-mindedness, and willingness. I will try my best to stay consistent and fully commit each and every day to making progress in my recovery.

I am truly willing to leave anything and everything behind that blocks me from growth in my recovery and the 3 big relationships.

I am looking forward to working the steps. I think that the focus on the fundamentals will help me change my attitude. I need to identify the thought patterns that lead me to denial and justification. I need to recognize how powerless I am. I need to stay humble and I know that if I lose sight of humility, then I'm likely to go back to acting out behaviors and justification. I am nervous about connection because it's outside of my comfort zone. But I know it's super important for recovery.

I hope that I will remember why I am doing this. I hope that I will remember that I need to be accountable to myself and to God. And I want to remember how my actions have hurt my spouse. I hope that as I work the steps, my spouse will recognize my changes. As I say that, I realize that I cannot control what she thinks about me or recognizes in me. But I hope that she can. And I hope that I can find connection with other brothers in group.

I am generally afraid of relapse. While I am sober right now and don't feel like I'm anywhere near relapse, I understand that it is a reality that many men face. I am afraid that I will slip into patterns of pride and self-centeredness which lead me to justification and resentment. That is why I think working the steps on a daily basis will keep me humble and grounded and focused on what I hope to accomplish.

I feel like working the steps on a daily basis. Will keep me constantly reminded of my goals in recovery. I know that a huge part of working the steps and recovery is a change of attitude or humility. And there is nothing more humble than making a decision each day to study addiction and recovery and writing about it.

I am ready to let go of my addiction. I have been sober for almost 8 months, and I'm grateful for my higher power that has helped me make it through these last 8 months.

I have already disclosed everything to my spouse and church leaders. I have finished my church discipline. I have been sober for almost 8 months. My mental health has been stable since I started taking new medicine. I am more humble than I have been in a long time, and I'm willing to accept these learnings and these experiences of looking inside myself and my heart.

I'm willing to leave behind the perception that I am really smart and know the answer to a lot of things. I want to practice humility.

I am. I continue to fail trying to work the steps on my own. I am becoming more accepting of the fact that I need a structured program of recovery. I have not been able to be honest, accountable, and humble without using the checks and balances of a structured program. I am looking forward to working the steps daily. I know I must do this. No one is coming to save me. I need to do the work and hope for the best.

I hope to grow in awareness, mindfulness, balance, resilience, tolerance, empathy, and discipline. I hope to be less affected by my worries and fears and better focus on daily step work.

I am afraid to return to my addiction cycles. I am afraid of not using each day to face my mortal life with honesty, accountablility, and humility. I am afraid of not working on righting the wrongs I have done to God and others. I am afraid of not choosing the good. I am afraid of not returning with increase what I have been given.

I am learning that I do not change or grow all at once. I am becoming more aware of how much I have tried to cheat the system, to go through the motions, to rely on someone else to save me. I have learned that I will only grow if I choose to be fully committed each day to my work of recovery. I can only do what I can in my moments of each day. Every day is choice to recover or not. Just for today I choose to work my recovery.

Yes, just for today, just for this moment. I am willing right now to let go and learn and practice a new way of life. Just for now, just for this moment.

Acceptance that I can only do the work right now, just for today, in this moment. I will choose to slow down and focus on what I am doing for recovery today. I will not get caught living in the past or worry about what I will be and do tomorrow. I will practice being fully present this day in my recovery work.

I choose to leave behind my past. I choose to seek a new way of living as I do my step work today, just for today.

Yes. I've been attending the meetings for about 5 months and am still a beginner at working and knowing the steps. So I'm excited to start this undertaking. Also I just got a sponsor, so it's nice to have some direction.

I hope to find strength to help me in recovery. To learn about myself and others.

Of course I'm afraid I might relapse, or give up.

Because life's struggles are day to day, so you have to work day to day to get help.

I'm really ready, even though I know there is no quick fix, and it's something I'll need to work on the rest of my life. Why now? Because I've tried on my own so many times and failed every time. The harm I've cause myself and others. I want something better, something real.

First time I've confessed everything to my wife. First time I've tried a 12 step program.

Giving up secrecy, willing to leave behind the lust and addiction. Willing to devote time and work to overcome my addiction.

I honestly have mixed feelings. I feel like I've done things like this before so there is a thought in the back of my mind telling me that it won't help or it'll be the same this time. On the flip side, I know that I've either rushed through it in the past, or not given it the consistent effort it deserves, so I know that I don't have an accurate personal idea of how effective it can be. I have heard really good things from other members of my group and my sponsor. I'm hopeful.

I hope that I can stop using pornography in a way that is more sustainable. I also hope that I can get back to being and feeling a lot of the things that I haven't been over the last 5 or so years.

I'm afraid that nothing will change, I'll slide backwards and I'll spend money that we don't need to be spending.

I think having a structured approach is really good for my brain. The abstract lack of structure that I had when I was working the steps on my own wasn't really working for me.

I want to be. I want to say yes, but I know that there is a part of me that wants to keep it. I would say that the true version of myself is ready and willing to turn my will over and the addiction. I think I've been willing in a lot of ways at various points throughout my life, but I didn't know how to stop.

Having a daily structured program will be really helpful. I plan on continuing to touch base with my sponsor daily, limit video games, build new habits, manage stress, and do scripture study, but my structured recovery reading and writing efforts have been inconsistent and lacking.

I'm willing to leave behind the feeling of a need to see if something is possible or to explore the whatif (for example can I get around a filter, is there porn on youtube, can I make Grok create pornographic content, is there sex in this movie, etc.)

I honestly have mixed feelings. I feel like I've done things like this before so there is a thought in the back of my mind telling me that it won't help or it'll be the same this time. On the flip side, I know that I've either rushed through it in the past, or not given it the consistent effort it deserves, so I know that I don't have an accurate personal idea of how effective it can be. I have heard really good things from other members of my group and my sponsor. I'm hopeful.

I hope that I can stop using pornography in a way that is more sustainable. I also hope that I can get back to being and feeling a lot of the things that I haven't been over the last 5 or so years.

I'm afraid that nothing will change, I'll slide backwards and I'll spend money that we don't need to be spending.

I think having a structured approach is really good for my brain. The abstract lack of structure that I had when I was working the steps on my own wasn't really working for me.

I want to be. I want to say yes, but I know that there is a part of me that wants to keep it. I would say that the true version of myself is ready and willing to turn my will over and the addiction. I think I've been willing in a lot of ways at various points throughout my life, but I didn't know how to stop.

Having a daily structured program will be really helpful. I plan on continuing to touch base with my sponsor daily, limit video games, build new habits, manage stress, and do scripture study, but my structured recovery reading and writing efforts have been inconsistent and lacking.

I'm willing to leave behind the feeling of a need to see if something is possible or to explore the whatif (for example can I get around a filter, is there porn on youtube, can I make Grok create pornographic content, is there sex in this movie, etc.)

I am hesitant as it is something new, and I know that it will be hard. But I want to take control of my life again, so I feel that I need to do it.

I hope that I can find ways to control myself and become a better man. I would like to salvage my relationships and work towards having healthy relationships with others. I also want to find a way to forgive myself for my past actions.

I'm afraid that I will relapse and/or will lose some of my most precious relationships.

I need structure in my life, so I think that working on them on a day to day basis will allow me to enter recovery and hopefully one day be stable in it, continuing to get better and improving myself.

I want to maintian a close relationship with my wife, I feel I need to completly turn it over to my heavenly father in order to become the man that she want's to be with. But at the same time, if she decides to not stay with me I want to be able to have the peace from Heavenly Father in order to improve myself and be able to maintain healthy relationships.

I need to do this for myself and I need to do it for my family. So I am committed to working the steps and finding ways to control myself.

I am willing to leave behind my old habits and addictions and work on improving my character flaws.

Yes, I want to continue to learn about myself and uncover things I may not have noticed the last time I did the steps

I hope I can come closer to God, learn more about myself and things I may be avoiding, and that I can become more secure in my worth.

I will have things come up that I have to discuss with others in uncomfortable settings.

It will give me daily accountability to keep progressing.

Yes. I am recommitting to it. I have been stagnant and need this change and fresh start.

Daily accountability, consistent work. Thorough and rigorous honesty.

I am willing to give up some sleep time in the morning to get up earlier and spend 10-15 minutes working steps.

I am looking forward to working the steps. My hope is by working the steps I will reach sobriety.

I would like to understand the core of my addiction. What causes me to act out and indulge in pornography. I am also hoping to understand what boundaries I need to put in place to prevent relapsing.

I am afraid of becoming known as the "Sex Addict" among my kids, family, and friends. I also have a habit of starting something and not finishing. I want to prove to myself and wife that I am serious about change and becoming better.

I believe it will work if I work the plan. Having a sponsor I can call to surrender lust will be extremely helpful. I need to be willing to trust this process.

Yes! I realize that what I am doing (or not doing) is not going to help me reach sobriety. I have tried to do this on my own and it is not working.

Having a program. I like programs and I like being able to check things off the list.

I need to leave my pride behind. This admits that I am an addict and that my life has become unmanageable. Leaving my pride behind will allow me to fully work the plan and trust the process.

Sort of. There are moments where I am motivated, and moments that I am not. It is the outcome of working the steps that I am interested in. I realize that working the steps requires routine and consistency. I struggle with this and do not like the discomfort of dragging myself into doing things I do not feel like doing. I think that is the inherent problem for me. I do not enjoy discomfort.

Like I said before, I sincerely hope that I am able to live a life where I surrender myself to God and thereby, am able to day by day, work through the discomfort of not acting out on my lustful desires.

I am afraid of the mental and physical discomfort that abstaining causes in those moments. I have failed so much that I am not afraid of it. It is the consistent sustained effort over time that is difficult for me.

If I did it, I think that working the steps on a daily basis would help me surrender my will to God's. I think I would heal over time. My problem is the daily consistency part. I am not good at sustaining routines, even healthy ones.

I am ready to let go of my addiction and turn my will over to God. I know it is going to be hard but I want to be happy and have success in my life. I do not like the way I feel when I act out. I also love my children and my wife. I do not want to make choices in my life that jeopardize those things that mean most to me, namely my wife and children. I also do not want them to experience the pain I experienced when my parents made their own selfish choices for which I paid for.

The difference is that I have established a support network of guys that this has worked for. I hope that over time, my sustained daily efforts of establishing a routine will pay off.

I am willing to leave behind my unwillingness to make daily efforts and be consistent. I want connection and surrender to God to be a daily part of my life until I die. I know that this will be hard to be that consistent but I cannot think of a better way to live.

Yes, definitely. Because I know that they are a way to overcome. I want and need the changes that they can and will bring to me and my life.

I hope that I will become integrally better at dealing with the emotional challenges and stressors in my life and will become a much more stable and grounded person and much closer to the Lord.

I’m afraid that I’ll become complacent as I have been for most of my time in recovery and stop working the steps and cause further injury to my wife and distance myself from God.

I think it will cause me daily reflection and attention toward recovery which means to me that I am truly healing inside and will be able to be a foundation on Christ to help and support others.

Yes. I hope so. It seems there are always hard things to let go of but I want to change. I’m especially motivated now because half measures avail nothing.

I will have this structured program helping me to work the steps each day. I will also be spending money on them which helps to make me feel invested in working the steps and changing.

My anger, lust, resentment, sleeping longer than is needful, and my distractions at night that keep me from spending quality time with my wife and getting the rest I need for a productive morning and day.

To be honest, I have mixed feelings about working the steps. I’m excited about the fact that I have some hope that it might help me in my overall recovery, sobriety, and well-being. On the other hand, I feel like I’ve worked through the steps twice before once in SA and once in AA. It’s a lot of work and that feels a little overwhelming.

What I hope happens when I work the steps is that I have a spiritual awakening and a change of heart, and I gain the strength to be able to resist the temptation. That I’m able to learn the tools in turning my temptations over to my higher power and using the tools to be able to work a solid program of recovery able to stay sober and well spiritually And mentally.

What I’m afraid of is that it “won’t work“ that I’ll spend a lot of time working on this and I will still continue with the same struggles and temptations unable to fully overcome my lust addiction. I feel like I failed over and over and over again for the last 44 years so why is this going to be different?

I think working the steps on a day-to-day basis will be helpful because it’s not something I just do once a week or once in a while it’ll become a way of life and help me to start my day every day in a good place.

I would like to say I’m really ready to let go of my addiction and turn my will completely to the care of higher power. I do want to be done, but at times I take my will back and feel like I can dabble in my addiction without fully diving into it And that never works well, but I’m hopeful that this time will be different.

What will be different this time is it? I will be working the Steps with a sponsor in the SA program. I don’t think I’ve ever really worked the Steps with a sponsor in the SA program. I’ve done it in the AA program.

When I’m willing to leave behind is my status quo. And my laziness. I don’t want to go to meetings. I don’t want to be involved in SA, but I’m willing to do it because it’s been suggested. My willingness is good. I’m willing to do things that I don’t want to do so that I can recover.

I am looking forward to working the 12 steps with a focus on SA. For the last 7 months I have been participating in AA with a dual focus, AA/SA. I have been reticent to join a SA group as they are coed and do not feel comfortable in that setting. I have attended a ARP group but find it does not have the necessary rigorous focus necessary to address the depth of my addiction. I have achieved some level of sobriety in AA (both for SA & AA) but my primary addiction is SA and need this specific focus.

As I commit to and focus on the SAL step work my seeking of lust in all forms will be relieved and I will begging to experience a new freedom from its grasp. A daily reprieve, that extends into long term sobriety. I hope to gain the trust of my wife through a living amends and stop managing behaviors related to the fear of outcomes of my most important relationships

A few months ago, i would have said that I am afraid that the work would not produce the results as countless other efforts have failed (mostly driven by self-will). Today, i do not have that fear. I am afraid that things between my wife and I will not work out. That she will decide to separate and divorce. I have done more that enough to give her every justification. I do not blame her for any decision she may make. I also know that my recovery is not dependent on her behavior or decisions. I am committed to living in recovery. It is hard to keep separate. Reliving the betrayal story and her participation in recovery groups is fearful. Not from the standpoint of additional discovery, I feel I have been honest and forthcoming, I fear that each time it is relived, the pain is renewed and her decision to stay is re-evaluated. So far, we are together in the same house but the math for her is daunting. I understand. There is a level of devastation can seem insurmountable.

Because I am experiencing it. The Steps are an amazing miracle and the light that comes through working them is more powerful than any thing I have tried.

Yes. I find that as I progress in recovery, the first 3 steps are part of daily contemplation, meditation and prayer. Constant challenges come and allow me to renew my commitment to let go of my addiction.

Daily, rigorous study, meditation, prayer, goal setting, follow through and fulfilling commitments have become part of my routine. Working the SA 12 steps will help me learn more about the specifics of my addictive sexual patterns and be a welcome change to anything i have tried.

I am willing to leave behind anything it takes to live in daily recovery. I pray for a new normal.

Si tengo el deseo de trabajar los pasos porque se que me van a ayudar a tener más conciencia de la gravedad de la enfermedad que tengo, de lo impotente que soy, del daño que está haciendo en mi vida y en la de mi familia y de las oportunidades que estoy desperdiciando de ser feliz, tener paz y ser libre de esta adicción. Creo que esta herramienta me puede ayudar a organizarme a tener un trabajo diario de los pasos.

Me gustaría poder ser más consciente de mi mismo y de Dios y obtener la fortaleza para enfrentar las raices de mi enfermedad. Me gustaría poder llegar a mantenerme sobrio, tener paz, sentirme libre, conectado con mi poder superior, relacionarme mejor con los demás (especialmente con mi familia) y poder llegar a ser alguien del que no me averguence ni sienta autoodio o rechazo.

Tengo miedo de la rigurosa honestidad con mi esposa, el dolor que me provoca cambiar mis hábitos, el recordar el dolor que causé, de verme a mi mismo tal como soy, de fallar otra vez y que este nuevo intento tampoco funcione.

El programa es un programa de 24hs y la herramienta de los pasos es fundamental. El trabajo de ayer no me sirve para hoy ni para mañana, por eso debo hacer el trabajo hoy para mantenerme sobrio. Cuando en el pasado trabajé los pasos diariamente fue el tiempo que más sufrí pero más sobrio estuve.

Quiero dejar la adicción pero tengo miedo de entregarle mi voluntad y mi vida a un poder superior. Quiero hacerlo y sé intelectualmente que es lo que debo hacer, pero quizás la enfermedad me hace tener mucho miedo del dolor que va a causarme este proceso de cambio. Siento que ahora es el momento porque estoy tocando fondos emocionales y físicos y que si no comienzo realmente la recuperación, lamentablemente voy a perder a mi familia, mi matrimonio, mi membresía en la iglesia y quizás termine literalmente con mi vida.

Me gustaría poder reconciliarme con mi religión y empezar a potenciar las herramientas que me da la iglesia con el programa. Me gustaría poder encontrar un sponsor que realmente entienda lo que significa ser miembro de mi iglesia, estar casado y tener esta enfermedad. Quisiera poder trabajar los pasos diariamente, tener sus sugerencias y poder realmente hacer los cambios necesarios un día a la vez.

Estoy dispuesto a dejar hábitos como el comer compulsivamente, actividades que me sacan de la realidad como los juegos, las series de TV, youtube y otros pasatiempos que no me conectan con mi poder superior.

Yes I am, so I don't feel trapped anymore

I will be happier and feel free

That this might not help me

I am unsure about this, but I feel it will most likely help because I will more focused on it

I am ready, and I am ready to do it now because why wait

I will by one myself to do it everyday

My old habits of allowing myself to be in position to do it

I need Changes in my life.

hoping to understand what im going through

afraid of the unknown

too busy not enough time

yes

hoping to heal

leave anything thats holding me back

Yes, i am looking forward to the steps because it will help me to sobriety and a better life.

I hope i can get sobriety and that I can get my life in order, i want to be happy again.

I'm afraid that i might slip back into my addiction and get into bad habits again.

I feel like it will help me get into a good routine and help me everyday to have better habits

Yes. I need to let go in order to get better I can't half ass this.

I am admitting my life is unmanageable and that I can not change alone i need God and family to help me.

I am willing to leave behind my old ways and bad habits to get to a better place I need to change and if I don't soon i will not change.

yes and no, I think theres a big part of me that is holding on to my addiction as its "Kept me safe"

I become myself again, and am free.

it doesn't work. Or I dont like the outcome if it does.

I think it would work if I worked it everyday just like any other muscle if you work at it consistently you will get the desired results.

No I dont think I am, I think I am so scared that it will just get me back to my controlled life.

I am doing this for me.

practically everything that doesn't serve me.

Yes, because I’ve already been working the steps for 7 months and know they are good steps that will help me overcome my addiction.

That I learn to overcome my addiction. That I become more in control of my life and become my best self.

I am afraid that I will fail. That the steps will be too hard. That I’ll take the easy path and give up on this hard path.

Because they are proven to work. They make sense to me. I agree with them. And I see that by diving into each step, there is a real benefit to that step that makes sense to me.

Yes I am. Unfortunately the timing is because I was found out and now need to fix my life if I want to keep the people in my life.

People know my secrets. I have people depending on me. I do a lot better in the light.

Pornography and masturbation. A comfortable life of little effort.

No. I lack discipline to wake up and do things consistently. It is lots of work to make it through sponsorship

I hope I change my mind, become stronger, more compassion, have hope.

Losing everything. Feeling like a failure

It will work because many before have found great success when they’ve worked them across many addictions. I need the stability

Yes. Because I’ve hit a new bottom and I’m scared. I am struggling heavily.

Following this curriculum. Being on medications.

My pride.

Yes, I am looking forward to working the steps as it will allow me to right my wrongs, as well as share my story with people.

I hope I can finally shed the immense amount of shame that I have held onto for so long.

I am afraid I will lose my family and that I will be judged on my acting out behaviors.

Working at my own pace will allow me to really give everything thought, prayer and full answers.

Yes, I am ready to give everything to my Higher Power. Now is the time for me to rebuild my relationship with God.

I won’t make excuses and will stop being “lazy”.

I am worried about the 12 Steps but I know that I have to take these steps in order to get to the point where I can be better and become a better version of myself.

I hope I can surrender all the things that I need to and can become a person in active recovery instead of a person that is trying to manage everything on his own.

People might not like me or not want to be around me knowing that I am a sex addict or someone that struggles with sexual compulsive behaviour.

I think by surrendering this all I am acknowledging my process was innately faulty as I sought to trust my own wisdom over that of others.

Yes. My own reason and mind got me here. I cannot trust my own judgment and I am ready to seek Gods guidance completely.

My efforts are not a show. They are a natural part of my overall desire to improve and not let this addiction define my life going forward.

Everything. Nothing needs to be as it was. I need to become a new man.

Yes, because I feel like this daily focus is what I’ve been missing to allow me to truly be in recovery instead of just having periods of sobriety with lust still lurking and true recovery not being accomplished.

I hope that it provides me with new insights on the root causes of my addiction and the tools to remain in recovery permanently.

The only fear I have is about the possibility that it won’t work or that I won’t do my part to make it work.

I think it will work, though I’m just not sure yet to what extent. Will it do a better job of helping me even avoid lapses? I really hope so.

Yes. Because nothing I’ve tried for the past three decades has worked permanently.

A daily focus on recovery, but viewing that effort in a positive light (recovery, healing, spiritual strength) rather than a negative one (having to deal with a problem).

My unwillingness to do whatever it takes. I’ll live by both my top and bottom lines, which includes daily step work.

I am looking forward to doing these steps. I'm at the point in my recovery where I'm taking all I can get so that I can be sober and in long-term recovery. I want to do these steps to heal myself and others who I've harmed. I'm excited to make amends and start healing these wounds

I hope that I enter a state where my addiction doesn't control me, but rather, I make continual decisions to distance myself from triggers and acting out. I hope that I feel a deep sense of healing, and that externality wounds start healing also, so that my personality is in alignment with how I'm living my life

I'm afraid that I've caused irreparable damage to some people, and they never forgive me. I'm afraid that my wife is ultimately unable to forgive me and distances herself from me. I'm afraid of the possibility of losing her, the person I fell in love with 12 years ago, permanently.

I feel like working the steps each day will allow me to remain in permanent, long-term recovery. I'm about 98% sure that step work is the only way to truly and fully heal from my sex addiction. If I walk down the path of letting my addiction control me again, then I know I will lose everything. This is my last lifeline, my last chance, my last opportunity to heal myself and save my family and my wife. The one thing I want in life is to be a trustworthy man so that my wife and family can rely on me. I want to show my kids how a good husband treats his wife, and how a man should treat his kids, especially and only when it's hard.

Yes. I wasn't ready before for fear of my future career. Even after graduating, I was too afraid of the consequences. It took me getting caught a fourth time, my wife threatening divorce, and kicking me out of the house for me to 1) make this concerted effort, 2) let go of my addiction, and 3) take the steps necessary to turn my will over to God. I may not have hit rock bottom, but I got way too close, and now I have a perfect understanding of what rock bottom actually looks like for me.

This time, I'm working and improving my mindset- I'm trying (and improving) to be as open as possible to my wife and others who I've trusted to know this about me. I'm trying to connect to myself and my wife on a deeper level, so that I can understand the root of the problem. I'm never going to stop going to meetings, therapy, talking to people who I trust and will listen, or connecting to my wife so that I can forever have this addiction die in the light.

I want to leave lust in all its forms behind. Not only do I want to stop acting out outside of my marriage completely and forever, but I also want to remove lustful thoughts on a day to day basis. I want to leave behind the shell of a person I was before, and become a new, improved version, who is in recovery from sex addiction.