Men’s Intro Questions

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Yes, so I can learn, progress, share with others.

That I can progress and have less desire for lust and a larger desire to help and serve

I might have to discuss more trauma with my wife

to help me with continual improvement

yes I am, I have had enough, I know there is only pain there

I will work harder and more consistent

lust

Yes I am looking forward to working the steps because I have been wanting a structured way to overcome my addiction and have never known how to actually do it. With this I have direction, and hopefully I can get the blessings of working the steps.

I hope I strengthen in recovery, become a better husband, and become a better person individually as I work the steps. That I may grow to be the me I want to be.

I am afraid during the steps I may somehow worsen my relationship. I am afraid too that no matter what I do, my relationship is already ruined. That I will have to go through all of this pain, become a better person, and then be left anyways because of the things I’ve already done.

I know that I become complacent in what my active recovery looks like. I believe that working the steps on a day to day basis on the online curriculum will allow me to continue strong regardless of the time that passes.

I am, and I feel like I have been, yet I haven’t made the changes I need, I haven’t done the things I’ve needed. I can’t lose the life I have… I don’t want to be an astranged father to my daughter. I don’t want to be a divorced man. Yet if I truly was willing to turn it all over.. I would give all of these desires up.

This time, I will complete the whole program. I will complete steps 4-12, and I will continue to live in my recovery by visiting meetings and with my therapist. I will also create better boundaries, better relationships with others and overall a more open and honest relationship with my spouse.

I am willing to leave behind everything that was my addiction. Everything that was my faults and all of my character weaknesses.

Kind of. I am looking forward to seeing what happens when I do work them and what I can learn. Not so much all of the writing I might need to do. But I am curious to learning about all of the steps as I work them and to see if they actually work.

I hope I will change little by little and eventually lose the desire to act out my addiction. I also hope that I will be more integrated with myself so I know what my strengths and weaknesses are so I can make better decisions about what to do with my life that I might be more fulfilled.

Not really afraid of anything. Maybe that I will need to give something up that I enjoy.

I wouldn't say it won't work for me. Some days I might forget, but I actually am optimistic that working on it each day will be doable.

Sure, I suppose. I'm looking forward to learning more about what that means. I feel like something is missing in my life, and I am old enough that I am starting to lose opportunities to change forever and want to be free from my addiction and have my Higher Power fix my life before it's too late to do anything. Not sure if that makes sense, but it's what I'm feeling.

I will be working the 12 steps.

Maybe the amount of time I spend on games. I'm sure other things will occur to me as well later.

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Yes. I want to achieve long term sobriety.

I hope my pride and resentments will lessen and go away. I want to be able to trust God.

I’m afraid of failing and continuing to live in Depression, Shame, and Guilt.

I need to do something daily because what I have been doing isn’t working.

Yes. I want to be my authentic self again. I want to think clearly. I want to be free from Lust or at least not let it have control over me.

I want to do something daily. I’ve been struggling with what that should be. I hope that this program will work for me.

I want to shut the door completely to the behaviors that landed me where I am. I want to have more control over my life.

Yes. I am ready to stop living in this addiction. It is ruining my life and my relationship with my spouse. It does not make sense to continue on the path that I was on. I think I have finally hit my rock bottom. I don’t want to get ahead of my recovery and I know that if I do that’s when I get complacent.

I hope I can grow to understand the root causes, weed them out, and then work to never let them happen again. I hope it gives me empathy towards my wife and gives me the strength to sit without trying to minimize
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I am afraid of being accountable and dealing with the fall out of my poor decision making. I also am afraid that I will feel shame and I am afraid of relapse.

I need to get the can do attitude and work on this step work everyday by. I’m definitely know the best sobriety I have had was during the time after the most recent bad relapse when I was able to put together 90 days of sobriety.

Yes. I have hit th bottom of the barrel and the only way is up. I can let it go and surrender it to the God of my understanding.

I have found a temporary sponsor and I will keep doing the step work and other action items of making a call a day. I am ready to put in daily step work and becomes the best version of me.

Everything. However I also know that the best way to practice a new normal is to develop healthy habits. This includes doing daily step work and a new routine. I am willing to let go and replace all my old addiction habits and try build new ones!

Yes and no. Yes because I have had glimpses of and know that my life is so much better when I can get recovery. I am excited to be able to live that life. No because it's hard and there is a part of me that still doesn't want to recover and wants to hold onto my addiction.

I hope that I can reclaim my life as it should be. I hope that I will come to believe in hope and recovery and goodness. I hope that I will be able to be at peace with myself. I hope that I will be able to have the success in my life that has been stifled because of my addiction.

First and foremost, I'm afraid that I'll fail. I am very hard on myself, and I'm worried that if I fail hard, then I'll really fall down the hole. I'm also afraid that I won't be able to cope with life without my addiction, which has helped me my entire life in coping, even though it's in a negative way. I logically know that working the steps will allow me to cope much better, but the emotional side says that might not be true.

I feel like it will work because it has in the past to a limited extent. I say to a limited extent because I've never kept doing it long enough for it to work for a longer time. So I know that as I work the steps daily and do the other things daily that I need to do, that it can work.

I honestly don't know if I'm really ready to turn my will over to my higher power, but I'm going to try and become ready and want to as I work the steps. All I know right now is that I'm going to work them and people have said that when the steps are worked, then the will to turn over my addiction will come. And I need to do it now before I fall even more into my addiction and into places that I might have a hard time breaking free from.

This time I'm doing this structured program with a sponsor so that I have accountability and an easy way to work the program. Not just trying to muddle through it. So I think that will make a huge difference.

I'm willing to leave behind my security blanket as it were. Leave behind the thing that I know has worked for so many years to help me cope with life. And by leaving that behind, the new normal will be having to truly deal with my emotions and with life in a healthier way.

Yes I want to completely overcome this!

I want to change my heart

I’m afraid I won’t change

I think it will work for me. I need to pace my recovery.

Yes, I have been out of control for too long. I want a virtuous and solid mind.

I am accountable for my thoughts that I indulge and pursue.

My laziness and my resentment and my fear of speaking my mind.

Yes. I want to work the steps because I want daily recovery and method to follow.

I would like to change. That includes long term sobriety as well as becoming a better person and actually have a relationship with God.

Nothing.

They will work because it changes the way I think. I know what this feels like because I have had good sobriety before. I want to keep changing so I can be happy.

Yes. Because I want to be happy, I want my wife to be happy, my children to be happy and to serve others.

Because I let up consistently. I want to keep up the effort daily.

Lack of effort and procrastination. I want to grow it every day.

I'm looking forward to taking these steps to ultimately better myself and my marriage

What I hope to happen is find an answer as to why I did what I did and to help fix myself. It was hard for me to admit that I had a problem but i want to work towards a better me. I want to take the next steps.

Honestly I'm afraid of temptation but becuase of the way it made me feel. I have an addiction problem and I want to break the cycle.

I know that it will be a challenge to work into my routine but I have a support system that will encouarge me to be better an stronger. I hope it works. I have already purchased the course books so I'm ready to learn why I was doing what I was doing and be able to move on to a better me.

YES 100% I'm ready to free myself from the guilt and pain that it was causing me. It felt good in the moment but horrible after. I'm ready to be honest. Why now, beacuse my wife found a video of me masturbating on my phone a confronted me about it. I was to weak and felt embarresed to tell her what was happening behind her back. It happened for two years and I'm not proud of it. I'm ready to face my problem head on and find why I was doing what I was doing and to break the cycle.

I will be more honest with myself and to my wife. I struggle with self control so I want to to learn how to be better.

I'm willing to leave my addiction of masturrbating where I'm not supposed to behind and equip myslef with the tools to not want to go back. It was a sad and disgusting life. I want to be better for myslef, form my wife, for marriage, and for God.

Everything is different in my life.

I am looking forward to working the 12 Steps because I believe working them has the power to help me change. I know
working them will take some effort on my part and be difficult at times, but I know it takes effort and difficulty to make
a mighty change in my heart.

I hope I am willing to put in the effort, be consistent, and be humble enough to allow the process to change me, little by
little. I hope I will slowly become a new person as I leave my addiction behind and focus more on those things in life
that are truly important to me, namely my relationship with God and my relationship with my family.

I am afraid I might fall back into old ways and relapse, or worse, begin another cycle of ongoing sobriety and relapse.

I know I need to work on something regular and consistent to keep me focused on my goals, so I think having a
structured program by which I do some step work daily will help me build strength and create a change of heart in me.

I believe I am finally ready to really let go of my addiction and any associated thought patterns, actions, habits, and
beliefs. I believe I am ready to turn my will completely over to God. The time for me is now because there is no better
time than now, especially since I have been dealing with this for maybe 35 years, and also because I feel God has been
preparing my heart and mind to make this change. I see little things in my life that I believe pointed me in this direction
and prepared me to make the commitment to progress in this area.

With about two months of sobriety under my belt already, I have begun to feel and understand the power of connection
as an antidote to addiction. Having a sponsor, making daily calls and going to meetings has been the biggest blessing
in my life and the peace I feel has had an affect on me. I have come to really believe I can change, and this is
something I'm not sure has ever happened before. I have genuine hope and that hope is compelling me to act.

I don't know what all I will be required to leave behind so I can be healed of my addiction and experience a mighty
change of heart, but I feel I am ready to leave behind anything that may be required of me. I know I must leave behind
all the thoughts, actions, habits, and beliefs associated with the practice of my addiction, and I am completely willing to
do that. I also am seeking to know what else God would have me surrender along this path, and I genuinely want to be
willing to do this.

I think so. This will be my 2nd time to go through the 12 steps. I was hoping that after doing it once, I would just be on the 10-12 cycle for the rest of my life. But as I relapsed after over two years of sobriety, I need to start from scratch.

That I find the same healing that I found the first time.

That it won't work.

I think it will help me to get back into active recovery.

Yes. But this question is a little frustrating for me as I've been there before.

I hope my effort will not be different, but the same as when I found sobriety and recovery for over 2 years.

Whatever it takes.

I am looking forward to working the 12 Steps because I believe working them has the power to help me change. I know working them will take some effort on my part and be difficult at times, but I know it takes effort and difficulty to make a mighty change in my heart.

I hope I am willing to put in the effort, be consistent, and be humble enough to allow the process to change me, little by little. I hope I will slowly become a new person as I leave my addiction behind and focus more on those things in life that are truly important to me, namely my relationship with God and my relationship with my family.

I am afraid I might fall back into old ways and relapse, or worse, begin another cycle of ongoing sobriety and relapse.

I know I need to work on something regular and consistent to keep me focused on my goals, so I think having a structured program by which I do some step work daily will help me build strength and create a change of heart in me.

I believe I am finally ready to really let go of my addiction and any associated thought patterns, actions, habits, and beliefs. I believe I am ready to turn my will completely over to God. The time for me is now because there is no better time than now, especially since I have been dealing with this for maybe 35 years, and also because I feel God has been preparing my heart and mind to make this change. I see little things in my life that I believe pointed me in this direction and prepared me to make the commitment to progress in this area.

With about two months of sobriety under my belt already, I have begun to feel and understand the power of connection as an antidote to addiction. Having a sponsor, making daily calls and going to meetings has been the biggest blessing in my life and the peace I feel has had an affect on me. I have come to really believe I can change, and this is something I'm not sure has ever happened before. I have genuine hope and that hope is compelling me to act.

I don't know what all I will be required to leave behind so I can be healed of my addiction and experience a mighty change of heart, but I feel I am ready to leave behind anything that may be required of me. I know I must leave behind all the thoughts, actions, habits, and beliefs associated with the practice of my addiction, and I am completely willing to do that. I also am seeking to know what else God would have me surrender along this path, and I genuinely want to be willing to do this.

Yes, I am looking forward to this. I started on this course before, almost ten years ago. I found recovery and peace. I saw a change in me and the greatest spiritual growth I have experienced in my life. My relationship with my God, my wife, my children, those around me, and myself was improved. I saw more clearly and better understood my purpose. A bad habit that I had just wanted to stop for most of my life became a pathway to change and spiritual growth. I stalled out, got side tracked, and did not continue on that spiritual journey. I recognize better now that half measures are not enough.

I hope to continue on that path. I have come to see the stepwork as a way to access, or enable the atonement of Jesus Christ in my life. I want to continue down that path.

I fear that I will stall out again. I fear that I do not have enough stamina or persistence to continue. I worry that I will let my wife down.

I have never been good about consistency with anything. Procrastination and avoidance are major character defects I have fought since childhood. However, consistency is what I need. I need to organize my life so that I do attend to dailies. Though I have been reluctant to use this course because I like to be in control of what I doing, and I am a little reluctant to have this all stored onlin. I don't want this information accessable to others without my knowledge/consent. I do trust the professionalism of the SAL organization, and perhaps that is a minor concern compared to my need to continue down this path. I do not think I could have come as far as I have without SAL to begin with, so I am trusting. Also, I am looking forward to trying this format. Now that I have decided to move forward, I think it may be exactly what I need to overcome my avoidance and procrastination.

Yes, I am. I feel blessed to have seen the impact on my life before. I know what I need.

I know that I cannot stop. I cannot coast, at least not for long. I know that it works when I work it. I just need to work it, because it won't if I don't.

Anything I need to. I am ready to let God tell me what I need to do next.

I’m honestly a bit conflicted. I’ve been wanting to work the steps every all the away through but I’ve struggled to do so in the past.

I hope for sobriety

I’m afraid to fail or that it will be hard

I feel like it will work, but I worry about the consistency I will give to it

No, I’ve prove that I’m not ready I guess. My decisions make that clear. But I am ready to try again

I am leaving room for actually working the steps this time

I am committing to do the steps and do it every day. Every day. My new normal is that I out the effort in.

With some years behind me attending meetings, working programs, etc., I've been having the impression again to work the steps a third time in a structured manner. I'm hoping to dig deeper, get more understanding, rid myself of more resentments, and continue to try to have a dire desire to surrender my will and change my behaviors. I still lack in empathy, full acknowledgment and understanding in the harm it does to me and others, and I don't understand why that is.

I hope I can get some real sobriety (more than months at a time - I hope to get past a year) so that maybe with a good amount of sobriety behind me I can understand more clearly what I described above - I want to really understand and believe that viewing pornography is wrong and destructive. I don't want to say it because the Church says so, because others say so, I want to have that conviction and belief myself (as I do already with any other harmful thing).

I'm afraid that I am so sick, or simply do not have the capacity to have lasting sobriety or recovery; that something happens within me after time that I truly have no control over (like a cancer), and there's nothing I can do about it. Whatever this "cancer" is, I will become resentful, critical, mean, want to prove and argue my case, blame, etc. despite doing everything I can to get out of it (daily calls, recovery meetings, prayer, surrender, church worship, etc.)

It's a hard pill to swallow, but I have no other choice. I know I have to, but I don't always do it.

I'm not. I have to be honest. I wish I were completely. I want to want to. But, there's something inside of me that can't. Gray areas prevent me. But, I have to try to do recovery actions and behaviors. I can't not try.

I'm starting this curriculum from no pressure at all from anyone else. I'm doing this because I want to.

I'm leaving behind pride, worry, blame, self.

Yes, I want to work as hard as I can and change!

I hope that I become a better husband to my wife. I want to be free of my addictions.

I am afraid I might end up getting triggered at times. I am not afraid that I will relapse as I have a team of people helping me.

I think it will work for me as I am willing to work for change. I haven't been good and daily working and I think that will be good.

I am ready to let go of my addiction. I sometimes am enticed by the past behaviors and attitudes as that is how I dealt with stress and negative feelings. But, I can see that this is no way to live and also I have destroyed my spouse in the process and I do not want to hurt her anymore.

I am willing to be honest and transparent. I know that I hide and run and I don't want to do that anymore. I want to have peace and be free and surrender all things to God.

My pride. My fear. My laziness. My desire for an easy life. My weaknesses. My justification. My excuses. My willingness to bend to be acceptable to anyone. My ingrained habits of looking for lust. My tendancy to be agreeable no matter what.

Yes I am. I have worked them before but I have a better understanding of its importance.

I live in recovery daily

It does not work again.

I hope and pray they do work. I hope to have conscious contact with God daily.

Yes I am.

I will work the 12 step program and let it work me.

Pride, selfishness, and longing for comfortability

Yes i am looking foreward to finally working the 12 steps, although I am nervous because i have a hard time following through with things. I've started before and stopped and really struggled to keep the momentum.

I hope to learn more about myself, what drives my addiction and why I cant seem to get lengthy sobriety. I also hope to gain a closer relationship with my Savior. I also hope to find strength to surrender my will to God in those desperate moments.

I may become complacent and stop doing the work. Or, I may continue to relapse and loose confidence in myself.

im a person who needs routine. I feel like a curriculum will give me a good routine. I'm not very apprehensive about weather or not it will work for me. I am the one who is responsible for making sure it works by continuing to work it.

I've answered that question many times only to prove myself not willing to let go yet. I can only hope that i am at a point in my life where I'm ready to let go of my addiction. I feel like I am. I hope that I am. I've tried everything else. I just cant keep going on like i have been for years. I feel like its either do it now, or, loose everything.

Im going to follow a curriculum which Im hoping will help keep my focused more on my recovery throughout the week. Im hoping i can commit to doing something each day to stay involved.

The idea that I can control my addiction instead of it controlling me. I hope I can leave behind old attitudes of complacency and pretending that I can live without boundaries. I would like to leave behind the need to distract from feeling hard emotions. I think my new normal will include dealing with real pain in a mature and responsible way so that I can experience and appreciate real happiness and joy.

Yes. I want strict

A better idea of who I am

Not finish

Something new so why not

It’s time

This program if I can figure it out

Everything

Sure I have worked it before but looking for more structure.

My goal is to stay in recovery. Be able to express my emotions.

Losing my family and marriage.

Get me in a good routine

Yea. There is power in vocalizing that

More structure with this program

Anything is what I want to say and believe.

Yes i am looking forward to working the steps again

Better and deeper understanding of how I can work the steps

I have attended 4 meetings a week for two years and my work schedule changed so I am traveling more and miss meetings more that I would like. This online course will give me opportunity to make up for meetings missed as I work the program when I'm out of town as well as home

Yes. I have worked on giving my will over and need to continue that the rest of my life. Now and later