Men’s Intro Questions

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I believe I am. I am because I feel like I'm at rock bottom. I've caused myself agony tome and again. I have damaged my wife's heart. I feel so miserable right now.

I hope I can man up and be accountable. I hope I finally achieve some sobriety.

I'm afraid I'll forget my resolve, lose my commitment, fall back into old habits, and lose my family.

I feel it will work because I need it to. I need it. I hope the constant dedication it will take will help me to remember.

I am ready. Finally. I'm at rock bottom, I've been at rock bottom so many times already, but this really is it. I can't allow myself to have to tell my daughters that my addiction caused our family to split up.

This time I will be consistent. At all costs. I will not allow a single day to pass without meeting all of my goals. This time I will remember the pain of relapse. This time I will be fully in, holding nothing back. Not even the things which will cost me everything.

I will leave behind social media. I will leave behind my tv shows. I will leave behind my safety nets. I will leave behind my growing apathy.

Yes . I am working the steps for healing and I am looking forward to win the battle of sex addiction and live a freer life

That I will experience healing from shame and guilts . Have hopes for a more honest marriage .

That I will get complacent and not work as hard as I should

It has to work for me . It needs to be the most important thing that I focus on

Yes. Because everything I’ve tried to date has led me to total surrender to God . I’m out of gas

Work the steps . This is new for me and I have never tried anything like this before

My pride, selfishness , self absorbed,angry, intolerable person to my wife

I am looking forward to working the steps because I believe I can learn to implement thexsteps in my daily living and maintain a truthful and honest

That I can really see the results of the value of the steps in my life. Also having a sponsor that I have obtained is very important to me.

That will not stick with completing the steps,

I think it will work for me as this something I have never done before on a daily basis

Yes ,
I cannot over come this addiction without my higher power . I have tried to white knuckle to stop and I am truly powerless over this addiction

My marriage is at risk . If I relapse again , my wife wants to file a separation after 44 years of marriage. So I am certainly motivated to change and dig in

My pride and selfish ways. My old ways of thinking . Half in /Half out .

Currently I am not. I have looked forward to working the steps in the past. I can honestly say that I have had my most success from not acting out with pornography while working the steps. I feel that I have tried and failed. Will I continue to fail? I listened to a podcast where the guy says that I wasn't addicted. Yet here I am. Relapsing for no reason. I do like when I work the steps and I feel better inside. Part of me feels that I should work a 12 step simultaneously with another program because I loved the way that the 12 step helped me feel.

I hope to become a better person. Closer to God. Find recovery and sobriety and stay sober forever

That I relapse. That I will get overwhelmed by all the things that I need to do to stay in recovery. Doubt about if I even need to claim myself as a sexaholic. If I can go for 3 weeks at a time without a relapse. Am I even addicted?

I feel that I need some interaction daily. Some involvement in the steps. A purpose. etc.

I want to say yes here. I am ready now. I surrender my life and will over to God as I understand Him, and how I will come to understand him. I feel that I have come so close in the past and my own desire and my trust in God was harmed several relapses ago. This choice is mine. I am going to make it and do my very best

I am sick and tired of being sick and tired. I also feel like I am done. This isn't coming from a place of desperation, but being done. I also recognize now how much a trigger and signal compulsivity is to escape and relapse. I am going to keep that in my mind

I am willing to leave behind games on my phone. I am willing to leave behind my right to view pornography and lust.

Yes, I am excited because I have been feeling the need for a method of working the steps. I have been floating through the past few months just letting the steps work me instead of working them.
I am mostly excited because I feel the desire for a change in my life and I feel more hopeful in my God that He will help me change my life for the best possibly outcome.

I hope that as I work the steps I will be willing to let go of my own methods and let go of the desire to indulge in anything sexually toxic or addictive. I want to trust God and let Him heal me.

I am afraid that I may lose the drive and fall back into old routines. I am afraid that it won’t work. That I won’t work. That God may not heal me.

I feel and hope that it will work because deep down I truly want to be at one with my Heavenly Father. I feel that my addiction and other aspects of it are what are truly leading me away from Him. If I work the steps daily I will be constantly reminded of this and I will want to work them to come unto Him.

Yes, I am really ready. I don’t think I could’ve said that a few weeks ago or months. I feel in my heart that it is time to let my addiction go and cleave unto my God.
Now is the time because one, I have started to feel myself slipping into more and more unmanageabilities and consequences and I don’t wish to progress down that path. I also find that I am truly desiring a connection with God and I have found that He wants to connect with me. I am willing to listen.

The difference is that I am starting to believe in God. That He has the power to heal me. My efforts are not in vain. I have finally seen this start to be true in my life. I have changed my idea of reaching goals. I don’t work to achieve anymore. I work to become. I want to become something different and this brings me hope and joy.

Movies with the crew at the station. Idleness at home. Time. Money.

I am choosing to invest more than I have ever invested into my recovery. By becoming something new through Christ I am really investing in Me, my home life, my family, my future, my happiness. I am choosing to lose myself so that I can find myself.

Yes I have already started

That I will surrender to god, that I will be changed, that resentment, anger, lust will succumb to the beauty in life. That I will be reconciled with God

I am afraid the changes that I have already seen, the miracles that have come into my life, will fade, that the old person will come back, even if my desires are pure

Well want to better yourself and work hard and be humble can only bring you forward, not back. It is impossible to change for the better even if it is a slow process.

Yes completely, I about lost everything. Through resentment and shame my addiction hid from me. I couldn't see that it was there all along. When I was kicked out I was blind now I see. I thought life was like that slowly trudging along, day by day. I thought the feelings of anger and frustration were normal due to stress and family life, when in reality I made myself that way. I lost out no many wonderful . I was unhealthy, I had no clue what was going on, I didn't know the damage and hurt I was causing I was so disconnected from myself and my family and most importantly my God. I have had an awakening and I refuse to let that go away. I want to be healthy and connected.

I think before because I haven't acted out in years that i was sober. This time I will continue 12 steps forever, I will attend meetings, sacrifice, give of myself to my family. I realize what was wrong with me, now I can cope and deal with it in a healthy manner.

I will leave behind it all of needs be. I will leave my business, lawsuits, relationships. I will leave it all to new a new person. Nothing is more important or needed in my life. My relationship with God and my wife and family, is the most important things. Nothing else matters.

Yes. I think working the Steps will help me recover more fully and keep me in a constant state of progress. I also think it will help me become more responsible, a better husband and father, a better researcher, a better family member, and achieve goals in my life.

I hope I completely recover from my addiction and become repulsed by temptations. I hope that I can be helpful to other people who are recovering from addiction.

I am afraid that I get distracted or that I relapse even though I am working the steps. I hope that having a support person will help me stay committed and not lose traction.

I feel it will work for me because it will help me maintain a constant focus on recovery and becoming a better person. I've also never been able to maintain habits of working on the steps daily for an extended period of time. I always get distracted or feel I'm doing well and then don't continue.

Yes, I am. I know I can't recover on my own. I need help to become the person who I hope to be. I relapsed several times in the past few weeks and while I did make some changes to try and prevent it from happening again, I didn't have the courage to tell my wife about what was happening other than one time telling her I was tempted. Today when I relapsed, I realized that I wasn't going to be able to continue recovering without confessing to my wife and getting more support. I saw that I could have a support person through ARP Support, and I know that will help me a lot. I've turned my will over to God before, and it was cleansing and freeing. I want to feel that way again, and I know that my eventual recovery depends on it.

I will have a support person and I will commit daily to continue recovering. I will report daily and create and maintain daily habits. These are things that I did during my mission, and in preparation for my mission, and I think that played a big role in my sobriety before, during, and after my mission.

Freely browsing the internet. Watching, listening to, or reading triggering media. Going to bed after my wife. Sleeping in after 9:30. Intentionally seeking after lust.

Yes. Learn and understand me!

Learn how to Express my feelings

I might relapse

They have helped many before me

Yes! I want to love myself again and love my wife again

A step by step program

My cruising, my internet surfing, my hating myself

I am looking forward to it because I want to be free from addicition.

I hope that I can be free from the chans. Be a better person that is more responsive to the spirit. Be more of who I am and restore my personality

I guess that I will falter and not complete it.

I think it will be helpful because it is one more thing that I can do.

Good question. I am, but I feel the fear in my heart of what that means and how I have to confront myself to do that or... maybe be confident in that.

Will work it daily and do what i'm supposed to do.

Lust, Pride, addiction, selfishness, bad characteristics

I love what I get from it, but I’m not looking forward to the time going into it. It just takes a lot of time. And accountability.

I do want to really understand them better because I want to be a sponsor. I want to internalize the principles more.

I do have a lingering fear of becoming so converted to the steps that I become more open with my addiction, including with my family. Being an open addict scares me.

I think it will work for me. I like that these are 5-10 min tasks. That’s about what I have time for. I believe in daily.

I think I am. I’ve been doing it these last couple of weeks and I like my life way more than the months before when I was taking lust hits whenever I could. Today will be interesting though. We’re going to the fair where I’ve been triggered in the past. Surely I will today. I’m excited to go to be with family and have good memories with my kids. I want to be focused there.

I think more connection with other men is a big one. More honesty with Katy. But I don’t think I know exactly what to do to keep my heart here.

Lust hits. I feel ready to give these away. I just like my life so much more when I leave them behind.

I am looking forward to working the steps. I've been around recovery for 4 or 5 years now and never really worked the steps in a complete way. I've also not been able to maintain continued sobriety for more than a few months.

I hope I gain an understanding and a change of heart that will help free me from a lifelong addiction to lust.

I'm afraid that I will uncover ugly truths that I've not yet dealt with and I'm also afraid that it wont work, again...

I feel like the only times I've been consistently, and truly sober, It was from daily work, meditation, prayer and meetings.

I really think so. If not now, when? I'm so tired of running from this. I want to face it head on and overcome this with the Lords help. Submitting my will and life to him is the only way that this is possible.

Consistency and sharing this journey with those that I love.

I'm willing to leave behind the right to lust, and the right to sex. I don't "deserve" these things. I leave behind my self will in these areas and will let God and Christ show me the pattern.

I am looking forward to taking these steps. I am looking forward to having a healthier and more meaningful relationship with myself, my loved ones, and especially with God, my Savior, and the Holy Ghost. Im looking forward to living a consistently clean lifestyle and being able to have that confidence in my relationship with God.

I hope that I will be able to "clean out the closet" so-to-speak. I hope that I will have nothing holding me down and that I will be able to begin to radiate joy, confidence, hope and faith.

Im afraid that things might get worse, that. things will get worse before they get better despite myself already going through the beginning stages of therapy with dr. Jed.

I feel like it will work for me because its going to keep me consistently going back to my commitment to myself and others, that it will keep these things fresh in my mind and that it will give me a healthy outlet to be able to improve.

I am ready and willing. I can't ever hurt Kenzie the way that I have ever again, and I can't continue living this way with this problem hanging over my head. I have had so many new beginnings lately, with my new job and the financial freedom and possibilities it brings, Beginning therapy, Beginning to be more productive and driven, I want to truly begin this too. I want to excel, and I can't do that when I am being anchored down by my addiction and when I don't have the relationship with God that is good and strong.

Everything. I have Kenzie to support me, I hav e my therapist to support me, I have the 2 twelve step groups to support me, and I have the drive to achieve things that worn on my radar before.

Im willing to leave behind whatever I have to. whatever comfort I have, whatever privilege I have, im willing to leave it behind.

Yes! Because I am look forward to continuing my recovery, one day at a time for God, myself, my family, and others I can help along the way.

That I will be able to remain sober and stay in recovery. I also hope to gain further insight and understanding into how my addiction how impacted me and those around me so I can make restitution and heal.

Nothing. Change can be scary at times, but I've learned what's harder and scarier in the long term is not changing. I've come to the point where nothing will stop me from working the Steps in my life for the rest of my life.

It will work for me because I need the daily reminder of where I was, where I don't want to be, where I want to be, and how I need to continue to stay vigilant if I am to remain successful.

Absolutely. Losing my salvation is not worth this addiction. Losing my wife and daughter is not worth this addiction. Being at peace with myself is not worth this addiction. There's a myriad of other reasons, but overall, my addiction caused enough pain and suffering that I'm done. No more.

I want it and I'm willing to do whatever it takes. I have access to new light and knowledge. I'm acquiring new light and knowledge intentionally on a consistent basis. I have a sponsor to help and guide me. I'm willing to surrender and let Him do what I cannot.

Anything that's required. Nothing in my old ways compares to the sweet joy and fulfillment I find in being right with the Lord, right with my wife and daughter, connected and present in reality and with those around me, and beginning to like myself again. I have more joy in life, my relationships, I am regaining my passions, interests, spirituality, and physical and emotional health.

Yes. My therapist recommends the 12 steps. I desperately need both help and hope to overcome my addictions.

I hope to engage my mind in the work. Hopefully in time my mind will refocus and think clearly. I want to enjoy the things I was did .

There is always the possibility of relapse. Hopefully all this won't overwhelm me.

A daily routine and discipline is badly needed in my life.

Yes, I am. Because this addiction has slowly gotten worse until it interferes with my daily life. It must stop!

Hopefully this course. And my therapist. Looking now for someone to be my accountability partner.

Porn and anything remotely connected to it. Hopefully my lustful eye. And leave behind the frustration and shame.

Yes I am. Too much progress with work so far to look back.

More knowledge and strength to maintain my recovery.

I'll become over confident in my recovery and relapse.

Persistence is key.

Yes.... as I've demonstrated over the past year of effort and progress. I finally gave up trying to do it on my own (which I couldn't).

Recognizing the problem as the addiction - not spiritual malady only - that it is. Seeking help from above and around me. Staying centered and humble.

Wasted time. Isolating. Not communicating with my wife and listening to her also.

To get better and to give in my will power for God's will.

A understanding that I am not alone and God is aways with me.

Relapse

Structure

Yes, I can't do this myself and my life is unmanageable.

Admittance

Shame, guilt, LUST

Yes, I have already been through them once and it was an amazing experience. It has almost been a year since I finished the steps and I feel like I am falling back into old habits and I really want to avoid that.

I hope that I can have an increased commitment to turning my life and will over to God. I feel distanced from Him again and I know I haven't been putting in the effort that I need to be putting in. The Steps will help me improve all aspects of my life.

Not really afraid of anything. I suppose I am a little skeptical if I will actually go through all of the steps again. Where is my commitment.

I have done daily step work through all of the steps before and without a doubt they helped me in ways I never imagined.

Absolutely. He has lead my life of recovery before and did a way better job than I can do by myself. There is so much freedom and comfort knowing that He is at the healm.

I know it will take a day commitment to truly change my thinking and behavior. I need to kick my butt back into gear.

I am willing to leave behind everything that I think I know about myself, recovery, and my God. I have such a limited knowledge of things and I am often wrong about what I think I know to be true. I need God in all aspects of my life.

Yes. I know that this is an important part of my recovery work

I hope I can experience true healing in my recovery journey and this will help me to live in sobriety and really live a sober life.

That I will not continue the course and finish. The fear of the unknown.

It will work for me. It has to. I cannot afford to loose any more of my life. I also need the discipline to finish my work.

Yes. I am at a Jumping off period of my life. About to loose my marriage.

I cant risk another relapse.

My lust

I am looking forward to working the steps because of what it offers and what I leave behind. I look forward to the peace and the calm it can bring to my life spiritually, emotionally, and in my relationship. I so desire that stability and I know the steps are how I can get there. I do have some fear of what it will require but I don't have to embark on this journey alone and I know God will get me through those times if I put my trust in Him.

I hope that I can find a sustainable method to find sobriety and keep it close to my heart. I hope that my wife can come to trust me again and feel safe around me. I hope that my ability to understand and share my emotions will increase and I can be authentic with those around me.

I am afraid of failure. I am afraid that I won't have what it takes. I am afraid my natural man of laziness, forgetfulness, of selfishness will take over and I won't find the success I am looking for. I am afraid that even with trying it won't be enough and I will still be lapsing and giving in.

I feel like doing some step work every single day is what will bring the stability but I know it will be difficult. The hardest part will be finding the right attitude when doing step work and getting what I need out of it. I will do it because if I don't I will lose my sanity and my serenity. I will lose the thread that I am holding on to to keep me sober each and every day, one day at a time. I can't afford not to do step work everyday. Recovery has a 24 hour shelf life and the day I don't do step work is the day I lose my sobriety.

I am ready. I have a lot to lose and a lot to gain at this point. Kari is saying "zero tolerance" and I try not to think of that and failing but it puts a lot of pressure on me to change right now. We have a baby coming and this is a new soul, a new person that is going to rely on me along with Kari and I have to let my Higher Power take control of how I am going to be able to even think of accomplishing this task. Now is when I can change. I have this program, I have meetings, I have tools, I have motivation. I will go one day at a time, one month at a time, one year at a time.

I can't just keep telling Kari when things are hard. I have to be able to push through my horrible pride and say I am struggling but especially the triumphs and how much I love her. I will include God more. I have to scrap a lot of old ideas and I know God exists but if he is going to help me I really need to believe in his power and I have to constantly be thinking of how he is helping me or how I can be connecting with him. So I think God and communication is going to be different.

I am willing to leave behind all my social media and just screen time. No more videos on youtube for school and no more highlights on Alexa. I don't need those. I can be connecting with Kari or being more productive. I can be aware of my lack of self control and whatever it is I won't let it control me. Food is another. Gaming is another. Street lust is also a big one. I can't let someone put the hook of lust or intrigue into me without immediately recognizing it and surrendering it and praying about it and dealing with it healthily. I will leave behind my pride. I can't take offense or let myself feel judged. I can't focus on myself and looking to others and serving and talking to them about them will give me a chance to change.

Yes and no. I have been attending 12 step meetings for somewhere around 15 years and I have gone no further than step 2. There is something about daily step work that has just eluded me so far. Part of it is my ADD, the rest I believe is my fear of giving up my addiction. and not wanting to face the pain that it hides. I am hopeful that the steps will work for me. That they will free me of my past, help me develop strength enough to face life, and a frame work to remain sober.

I hope that the shame of past actions will be removed. I hope that I will learn to do hard things. I hope that I will learn to face my fears, doubts, and the pain I have always run from.

I will fail. I will not follow through with the work. I will be unable to handle life without lust.

If i'm being honest I have a lot of doubt that a daily working of the steps will work for me, because i have never before succeeded at it. I'm hoping that this structured format will help. I am also not willing to completely give up. So I will try again a different way, and I will keep trying until I figure it out.

I feel like this question belongs in step 3. I'm not ready for this yet that's why i'm here.

I am practicing self compassion, I am letting go of perfectionism. I will do my best to keep moving and depend on feedback from my sponsor and reworking of the steps if necessary to help me be thorough enough to achieve lasting sobriety. I will fight against the urge to isolate and give up.

Perfectionism, Control of the process

Yes. I've worked all of the steps previously and I'm ready to work them again this time focusing on my relationships.

A change of heart.

I will start to coast again.

I know it will work. I'm more worried about working it myself.

Yes. I'm willing to let go of my addiction. I do that one day at a time. But I'm also ready to let go of trying to do my relationships by myself. I need God to show me what I need to do differently and open my heart and my wounds to him to change me.

A commitment to daily logging in and working these steps.

Whatever it takes!

Yes I have done a step one with my group and even though it was very difficult I felt better completing it

Healing for me and my family

I won’t change

I feel being more consistent with my recovery will keep me on a healthy path

I hope so.
My marriage is hanging by a thread

I am learning tools I never new were available

The old me

Yes, I am ready to know the true me and the be that has felt hurt this whole time

I will know myself and inner child better.

Losing people that I love

Consistency is key and will allow me to keep what I need to at the front of my mind.

I am. I got a glimpse of what I am without this addiction and I want that in my life.

I have support and have something to actively strive within my recovery

Fuck yes

I want to work the steps so that I can change. I have been an advanced addict for years. I am tired of the relapses. I am ready to get to the next level in life. I really want to live in recovery and be able to serve in the church however God wants me to. I want to worry less about myself and more about others.

I hope that I can heal the broken parts. I hope I can learn to deal with my "lust" temptations in such a way that I can stay away from pornography and masturbation. I hope that I will be able to connect with people at a whole new level.

I am afraid that I might fail. I am afraid that it won't be enough and that I will continue to struggle with this for the rest of my life. I am afraid that Erin wont love me the same way because of my struggles.

I feel that it will help because it will help me focus on being the best me every single day. I think it will help me stay focused on establishing those habits that will help me the most.

I am ready to let go of my addiction. I need to give it to God and pray that he will take it from me. Now, because I am getting married to Erin. Now, because I should already be past my addiction. Now, because I am ready to serve God. Now, because my kids need me to be better.

The consistancy of my efforts will be different. I am going to go to meetings, work the steps, see my therapist, and work on my holy habits and righteous routines. I am going to follow the four pieces of the pie that Steven talks about in SAL.

I am willing to leave everything behind. I am willing to install what I need to install on my computers and my mobile devices to protect me from getting access to things I shouldn't. I am going to be completely honest and open to Erin. I want to be a new man. I am willing to sell all that I have and follow the Savior. I want to be better. I want to be the man that I can become with just a little bit more effort. The focus and consistancy is what I need.

I want to work the steps so that I can change. I have been an advanced addict for years. I am tired of the relapses. I am ready to get to the next level in life. I really want to live in recovery and be able to serve in the church however God wants me to. I want to worry less about myself and more about others.

I hope that I can heal the broken parts. I hope I can learn to deal with my "lust" temptations in such a way that I can stay away from pornography and masturbation. I hope that I will be able to connect with people at a whole new level.

I am afraid that I might fail. I am afraid that it won't be enough and that I will continue to struggle with this for the rest of my life. I am afraid that Erin wont love me the same way because of my struggles.

I feel that it will help because it will help me focus on being the best me every single day. I think it will help me stay focused on establishing those habits that will help me the most.

I am ready to let go of my addiction. I need to give it to God and pray that he will take it from me. Now, because I am getting married to Erin. Now, because I should already be past my addiction. Now, because I am ready to serve God. Now, because my kids need me to be better.

The consistancy of my efforts will be different. I am going to go to meetings, work the steps, see my therapist, and work on my holy habits and righteous routines. I am going to follow the four pieces of the pie that Steven talks about in SAL.

I am willing to leave everything behind. I am willing to install what I need to install on my computers and my mobile devices to protect me from getting access to things I shouldn't. I am going to be completely honest and open to Erin. I want to be a new man. I am willing to sell all that I have and follow the Savior. I want to be better. I want to be the man that I can become with just a little bit more effort. The focus and consistancy is what I need.