I am both looking forward to and fearful of the progress I will make in the 12 step process. I have done step work in the past, and it was both very difficult and fulfilling. This is my first stepwork with any kind of Sexual Addiction work. I have been suffering from this addiction since about age 11 or 12.

I hope to gain a better understanding for myself and to develop and re-recognize values and goals to better my future and promote self-love and growth.

I am afraid I will surrender to the process of step work through sexual addiction and face judgement. I am worried I will run into trouble that will produce difficult consequences with my future because of past decisions made in my addictive past. I am afraid to be alone.

I feel working the steps on a daily basis will promote self growth and help to keep me on an upward trajectory throughout my recovery with SA.

Yes. I know I will have days I will fall short and not fully surrender to my Higher Power. In these moments, I know by setting a goal to practice the Steps daily, if only for a few moments will be a great goal. I have lived in this addiction for possibly longer than I realize and may have been pre-disposed to this way of life from an age of a toddler or baby.

I will not try and live a perfectionist mindset. I will strive to better myself if not always for God, than for a better life for myself.

I am willing to leave behind a perfectionist mindset and self-destructive or shameful choices. If I feel I am making choices that promote shame, I will remain curious about it instead of deny feelings of my shame, choosing not to address or be curious to the shame, or ruminate in it.

I want to work the steps because I know their value from AA.

Become a transparent man to my wife and speak only the truth.

No, I'm already causing my wife enough pain, I need to show her progress in as many ways as possible and begin walking with her in her pain.

Yes, they will, I have complete confidence in the steps, they will work as much as I work them.

I started attending church again, which is a big step, we stepped away about 7 years ago and I lost my connection with God after that happened. I am working at regaining my faith.

I'm motivated to become a man my wife can be proud of. I'm motivated to save my marriage. I'm motivated to help my wife in her recovery.

porn and masturbation are already in my rear view mirror some 11 months ago. I still have flirting, which I recognized last night at a social event, and objecting to conquer. I am very willing to leave both of those behind.

Yes. Provides an opportunity to make improvement/change/be the person others can rely on.

I will notice a meaningful change

I will get frustrated, fail, I will be seen as a failure

Daily reminders will more likely keep me in check and provide me with meaningful insight into my recovery

Today yes. But my willingness changes and sometimes I want to reach back into the comfortable known of addiction

Checking in daily with spouse. Using the online work. Doing something daily rather than sporatically.

Opinions others have of me. Taking bites of lust. Hiding failures along the way.

I have read about, talked about, and thought about working the Steps, but I have not actually done them. I want last sobriety and a happy and productive recovery and I know that I need to not only commit to work the Steps, but actually work the steps - do the work, follow the plans, and harvest the results.

Daily support and education to help me stay on track and work my recovery along with helping others on their road to recovery.

I am afraid that I might have more relapses and be a disappointment and a source of grief for Sheryl. I know what damage I have caused up to this point and how I have destroyed her trust in me and I do not want that to happen - not only for her, but for myself. I also want to be able to worthily partake in all of the covenant blessings that have promised to me and my posterity through righteous living.

I know from experience that "it works when I work it." When I get lazy (my excuse used to be "when I get busy"), my mind and habits wander to places where they shouldn't go - directly pursuing actions of lust, or looking for a lust hit - leading to acting out. I do not want that and daily study and commitment is the only way to stay sober and enjoy recovery.

Yes - I want a happy and trusting marriage. I believe in the power of God and his Son, Jesus Christ, to take away my sin and my unbelief - I need to turn my will over to Him, because only through His grace can I be freed from the bonds that have entangled me in the past.

I have experienced the joy of a long period of sobriety, but I got lazy and careless. I can't let that happen again.

I need to be very clear about my boundaries and bottom lines, make those clear to Sheryl. And then commit to God, Sheryl, my sponsor and others to live those one day at a time. At some point, and maybe this time around, I will need to give up my liberty with my phone.

Yes, i want to quit this addiction. No, I can foresee a long and painful journey of diving into this addiction heavily and seeing my failings and flaws as a human

I will have a greater understanding of myself and how to combat my character flaws. Ultimately, i hope for stepping stones to guide me to long term sobriety

I am afraid I will see there is more damage done that I can see on the service. I am afraid this will affect me for better or for worse.

I don't have the time for that. Starting small for me would be working the steps once if not twice a week.

I am 75% there. I am turning my will over to him in word and thought but not in action and deed. I am still not allowing myself to trust this on anyone else including God and in turn still relying on will power.

I will diligently read the literature of SAL. I will work with my sponsor monthly if not weekly.

I am willing to leave behind who i thought "I" was. I am ready to leave behind my chains and shackles of the world so that I can soar in it.

I've worked the steps through the Step into Action book twice. I'm looking forward to working the steps through this online curriculum to see if I can gain additional ins

I hope that I get closer to God and become a better person

My only fear is that I do this half-way (half-assed) and get nothing out of it.

Working this on a day to day basis helps reinforce good daily habits which are crucial for growth. A common fault of mine is to go all out for a few days and then stop any improvement effort. This is terribly ineffective, as it feeds my delusion of I'm doing fantastic after a few days of intense effort and then my despair when I go weeks without any effort. Daily consistent effort I've found working the steps previously through the Step Into Action book is the best self improvement progress I've ever made.

Yes. But I need a constant daily reminder of this. Why now - because I do not want to live the half-life I lived previously moved with the current of life with my head down.

Since this is my 3rd time through the steps, I'm confident that I will make it through. However, my hope is that I gain new insight, new motivation, and better connection to God and reduce defects further.

Leave behind my defects.

Yes I am looking forward to working the steps. I have been working on recovery for the last 13 years off and on and with my recent relapse, i want to implement the long term recovery solution for my addition. I realize there is work involved but I want to do the work necessary in order to feel the relief and happiness and peace that come with really being in recovery.

I hope I will learn to change my daily habits and use the tools to help me stay in sobriety for the long term.

It may not work and I will just relapse again

i feel like a daily reminder helps keep me on track with small course corrections each day rather than trying to do it on my own and have to make bigger course corrections after relapse.

yes. 13 years of struggling and giving my will to God and taking it back has taken its toll on me and on my marriage and family. I feel I am in a place where I can really start again clean and move forward in faith toward a closer relationship with my Savior

I recognize the need to change for a life time and not a short term fix.

my addict self with anger, resentment, hate and bitterness

I am because I want to be free from lust.

I hope to be free of lust and be able to stay sober.

I'm afraid it doesn't work.

I think it will help a lot and will make me constantly work towards long lasting sobriety.

I am getting there. No better time then now.

I will be working the steps with a temporary sponsor.

I am willing to leave the instant comfort and protection of lust and compulsive use of social media.

Yes because I want to be free lust.

I hope i can learn how to face the world as it is and learn to work through character defects and challenges without resorting to my drug.

I am afraid being sober and working the steps won't make a difference and ill just become miserable.

I don't really know if it will right now because the addiction can feel hopeless sometimes but I think there is a chance where it helps tremendously.

I am getting there. Going down the rabbit hole of addiction only leads to suffering and the death of my soul. there is no point in living in addiction any longer. I want to connect with others on a real level and grow emotionally.

I will have more tools like working the steps and having a temporary sponsor.

I am willing to leave behind the instant comfort I get from lusting and compulsively opening instagram and youtube.

I am looking forward to the step work.
Because I know I can’t do this alone, and with this daily step work curriculum will help me stay on track

i hope To get connections and tools and somewhere i can turn to when I struggle

i have done lots of other intensives and group so im very open about group work

i think it will give me a goal and help keep mine from being complacent

I am ready to give up my addiction. I have been working with my church leaders to repent and i have been working on turning everything over.
Now because I was close to ending my own life to get out of this addiction, i have caused so much pain on myself and my family
I want to be healthy and safe for myself and my family, and be the man i know i am and thy deserve

im taking it seriously im doing lots of work the last year and i am constantly doing g what im saying im doing im leading with. My actions not my words

anything i need to I deserve my wife deserve my family deserve the man I know i truly am

Yes, absolutely I am looking forward to this. I am ready to free from my dark past

I feel a weight lifted off me and my anxiety will disappear.

I will expose some secret that my sponsor will cringe

I know they will because I’ve seen it work on alcohol and drugs

No question

I will be honest open minded and ready to put in the work

My will, my life, and my thoughts

Yes, I find a piece in them. I find direction.

I can learn and put in the practice the steps and principles

Not afraid of anything I have God and my brothers

Yes, working daily is a good reminder. Powerful tool.

Yes, I can’t do this alone. I don’t want to do it alone.

And seek help from professional professionals for my brothers from family

My selfish desires, my pride

I am looking forward to working the steps because I feel like I understand them differently now. I have more hope and faith in my God, and I believe that he has led me back here. I believe that I will learn how to truly give up and surrender to him Instead of holding on.

I am hoping that I will let go of old beliefs and fears. I’m hoping that I will truly believe and trust that God will help me. I am hoping for sobriety I am hoping and believing that I will be OK if the addiction never goes away, but that I can learn to surrender it every day.

I am afraid that I may do everything I can, and still not find recovery. However, I believe differently now. I believe that God is willing to help me find healing, it just may not be exactly how I pictured it.

I believe that working them every day will help me because it will keep my mind in recovery mode. It will help me to recognize my God and it will help me to recognize myself.

I truly believe that I am. This time I am letting go of the idea that God will take away the addiction completely, and I am believing that he will help me as I surrender and give it to him. He wants me to trust him.

I am going to work all the way through the 12 steps and I am going to try to take the 12 steps at face value. I find that if I overcomplicate them I get confused and over analyze my God.

Right now, I am willing to leave behind some of my habits and create boundaries. I’m willing to leave behind old beliefs that ruined my faith in God I anticipate finding more things that I am willing to leave behind as I practice a new normal. I don’t know what those are yet, but I will be waiting and ready to leave them behind.

I am not sure what the steps are yet but sure. I am looking forward to working the steps to learn them and learn serenity and surrender.

Hoping to learn about my needs and how they affect my behaviors. Learning how to surrender. Learning how to heal. Learn g how to grow and a better way to live.

Relapse. Obsession. Hurting others. Facing others.

Hopefully it gives progression

I feel like I am. I feel hesitant on discussing with my religious leaders but feel a connection with God in handing my heart and desires to Him.

Yes. First time getting help.

Vulnerability and honesty.

I am looking forward to working the steps because I have read accounts of those who have suffered worse than I have and who have still been able to find recovery through the 12-step program.

I hope to be able to feel a weaker and weaker hold that my addiction has on me and to build my relationship with God along the way as I build my trust in Him.

I am afraid that the steps might not work for me and that they may have just worked for others.

I feel like the day-to-day basis of working on the steps will help me because it will become a routine that sticks in my head that I am focused on this more than my addiction will be able to control me because I will be able to think about it all the time.

I am ready to let God help me with and take this addiction from me because I want to have a happy marriage where this issue is not a problem that my wife will have to worry about consistently and so that I can feel real love stronger in our relationship.

My efforts will me more regular and intentional by not thinking that I can do this myself.

I am willing to leave behind the extra free time that I have allowed temptation to sneak in by exercising deliberate effort on fighting this addiction.

I have always had a "check the box" mentality about so many things in life. Early on in my recovery, and even now, I approached the steps in a similar way. They were a list of things that needed to be completed and checked off. While there is an aspect of actually completing the steps, I can't have that kind of mindset when it comes to my recovery. I am looking forward to getting back into the routine of regular and consistent focus on actual step work, not just the idea or passive thought and view of step work. This online curriculum offers a fantastic format to engage in actual step work and I am committed to making it more a part of my life.

I realize that I have done a poor job of including my wife in my recovery efforts. I feel as though I have made great strides in opening up and connecting with other men in recovery, but I haven't done a good job of sharing my thoughts, feelings, and experiences that I have gained in recovery with my wife. I feel as I reengage in this online step work curriculum I will be able to gain continued perspective and insight with my recovery that I will be able to share with my wife. I want to be open and honest about all aspects of my life and not be so closed off when it comes to my individual work of recovery.

I am afraid that I might start doing step work again just to show my wife that I am doing it. I am afraid that I may resent her for trying to control my recovery by insisting that I share more and do more with her. While this is my personal recovery and I am doing it for myself and my connection with God, I also want to include my wife along the way and share with her what I learn and do. I don't want to become complacent in my efforts of recovery. I am not in recovery to maintain sobriety. I am in recovery to improve my connection and relationship with God and myself and to become a better person and instrument in God's hands to bless the lives of His children. I am hopeful that I will be able to find the right balance and mindset as I approach step work again this time.

It's about progress, not perfection. I need to focus on my effort and leave the outcome up to God. I am not in the outcome or results business. I am in the effort business, and that's what I need to focus on. Control the controlables and leave the rest to God. As I work the steps on a day to day and moment to moment basis, it is easier for me to keep God in the center of my life and to surrender my will to His. This has worked for me in the past and I feel that it will continue to work for me as I put forth a focused effort and a mindset of surrender and willingness.

I am. I have seen my life change in miraculous ways and I know it is because of the blessings of recovery and working the steps in all aspects of my life. I have learned tools and resources that I never knew and God has blessed my life in so many ways. He is in charge and He knows what is best for me. His timing is the ideal and best timing for me in my life. He knows me and He is personally and intimately invested in my happiness and progression. He's got me. I am ready and I am willing. I need to match my effort with my willingness and just work the program and stay connected to God.

I need to give myself grace and give up the delusion of perfection. I am broken and imperfect and that is OK. I am loved, my worth is 100 and I am lovable as I am. I need to share experiences and perspective with my wife. She feels unsafe when I don't involve her in my recovery. While I am not doing it for her or for her to see, I want to increase my love and connection with her and I need to get better at opening up to her and giving her my all, both good and bad, so that we can experience the unity God intends for both of us. I will be more purposeful and not hide behind my sobriety date to justify lack of focus or effort. Sobriety, just like my work of recovery, is a day to day, moment by moment effort. The steps work when I actually work them.

Expectations, outcomes and results. I am blessed beyond measure to be in recovery and have these tools and resources. Anything I put in front of my recovery, I will lose. It needs to be a priority and I need to stop rationalizing my lack of effort by leaning on the progress I have made and my sobriety date. I am one bad decision away from going right back to my addiction. I need to acknowledge that my life in unmanageable when I try to do it on my own. Only when I surrender to God and His will for me am I able to progress and succeed. I cannot live in addiction. It is not an option. I am done relying on what I think is best and I am willing to let go of everything in order to rely on God and His plan for me. I trust Him and I love Him.

I have a lot of fear. I am finally coming to the reality that I am a sex addict. I don't like labeling myself as that but I am realizing that it is absolutely true. I have tried to get better before and have failed countless times. I want to recover from my addiction. I want to recover for myself and also for my wife and family. I am unsure whether I can save my family but I want to try. I am fearful to have others find out about my shameful addiction.

I would like to recover from my addiction. I would like to overcome the shame and feelings of inadequacy in my life. I would like to find happiness and hope. I would like to feel at peace with God.

I am fearful of relapse. I have tried to overcome these problems before and was unsuccessful. I am afraid of others finding out about my shameful secrets and about my addiction and acting out.

Nothing else has worked for me and as I have started attending the 12 step meetings, I am encouraged by men who I see in long term recovery. There is hope. I want that and and willing to work the steps on a daily level to get there.

I am not sure I know how to do this but I want to do it. I want to let go of the addiction and surrender to God. I feel that if I don't do it now, it will destroy my family and me, if it hasn't already.

I finally feel humble enough to call my acting out what it is--an addiction. I am willing to do what it takes to overcome this.

I am willing to leave behind all that I need to. I am not exactly sure what that will entail but I am willing to find out on a daily basis.

Yes- Because I need healing from adiction

I'll stop acting out
Become closer to God
heal my family

It wont work

I feel it will, it has worked for others

I had a spiritual awakening on Dec 1st

New heart and open eyes to see
Empathy I can now feel

Everything

I know that the 12 Steps are essential to learning about myself and the power that my addiction has over me. I will not achieve long term recovery without completing the 12 steps and putting them into daily practice in my life.

the Steps are a path to discovery and healing. I want to understand why I have this addiction and break its power over me through faith in God.

I am not afraid because I truly want long term recovery.

The 12 Step program was created by AA and has been the most successful program and in helping all addict achieve sobriety and remain in long term recovery.

I am ready. I know that I cannot control my addiction without God's power and I have caused tremendous damage to my wife and family because I have been in recovery. I have had too many relapses.

I must work everday on my recovery and incorporate the 12 Steps into all aspects of my life.

My arrogance, stubborness, fear, secrecy and lies to myself, my wife,, and others. All my addictive behavior

Yes. I am looking forward to having a psychological and spiritual transformation in my life. I want to be sober and I want to help others stay sober.

I hope that I gain sobriety, that I find a sense of peace and comfort in my life, that I gain consistency and a sense of purpose, and that I find serenity.

I am afraid I stop working the steps, lose motivation, become discouraged, and quit. I am confident that with God’s help and surrendering negative attitudes, recognizing my powerlessness to recovery on my own, that I can do this

Working the Steps on a day to day basis will work for me because I am committed to taking actions one day at a time. This is an action based program. I want to be willing to take the actions of recovery even when I don’t feel like it.

Yes. I want to have a new life. I want God to work through me to bless others. My way doesn’t work. Trying to do it on my own doesn’t work. I feel so much love from brothers in SAL. I have benefited so much from the fellowship. The fellowship isn’t perfect, I am not perfect. Acknowledging the imperfections of myself and others, I still choose to go forward and rely on God who has all power to keep me sober and transform my life.

What will be different this time is trusting God and surrendering my will. I want to be willing to do recovery God’s way, not my way. I trust that He has an answer to every problem I face. He will guide me. I have nothing to worry about. He wants me to get married and have a happy, successful family built upon the principles of Christ’s gospel. Whatever inspires me to believe in God, to love Him, to be sober, and help others, is of God. Remember Zac, SAL fits all these requirements. Ask not what you can get, ask what you can give to the program. Offer the kind of support and empathy to others that you wish for yourself. Give abundantly and receive whatever comes. Put in the effort one day at a time and let go of the outcome.

I am willing to leave behind fears about recovery, doubts about if I can get sober, resentments towards parents, others in the SAL program, the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, and BYU. If I am resenting institutions that have the purpose of helping me and helping others, than where is my heart?

I need to do this for me. I want to thrive as a person and this is the way forward for me.

That life becomes easier and my path becomes clearer.

Complacency... Ive already let things slip in a big way in terms of doing the work.

It does work. I know it does.

Yes... Im ready

Consistency, I need this work to accompany my sobriety otherwise it feels empty.

I am leaving behind my complacency and procrastination. Lets do this.

I am finally going to work the steps and I am looking forward to it but am also nervous. I have some doubts but I hope over time those doubts will fade.

I hope as I go through the steps I can figure out how to navigate through life correctly when it comes to dealing with my thoughts and actions when times get hard.

That I will fail

I think it will work for me because it will keep me accountable, focused, and dedicated to what I'm trying to accomplish here on a day to day basis.

a small part of me wants to keep it due to it being familiar but I know in the long run it wont sustain me. I'm ready to turn my will over to a higher power because I don't know what else can help.

Why now? I want my marriage to work, I don't want to be who I was/am and be someone that can be trusted and looked up too.

Actually doing the steps instead of "trying" to heal on my own. It has never worked and it will never work. With this structured course and having a sponsor to help guide me, I have hopes that this will turn out much better.

I've already started by getting rid of all my social accounts but Facebook since I've been good on there. I don't use it as a tool of bad but for good. I go to sleep and get up at decent hours instead of staying up late. Being on the computer before and after work has greatly decreased. Those are the things I have been willing to leave behind so far. This si the new normal that I'm still trying to get used to. I'm sure I'll be adding to the list as I go along here.

Yes I need to fix my adversity toward being faithful to my wife!

I can become better happier person and make my family respect me

My wife choose not to work out my issues in our marriage

It will help

Not necessarily, need some help

Focus determination to look within

S
Cheating on my wife

I am. I think there are actions, like making a full disclosure, that will be essential to help me be sober and recover. I am apprehensive about what the steps will require me to do, but the cost of the addiction is greater thant the cost of recovery.

I hope I am able to make consistent progress with sobriety and recovery. I hope to see and feel progress despite setbacks in sobriety. I hope that I'll be able to gain a more realistic view of myself and others. I hope that I can reconnect with God as I know Him.

I am afraid I may begin to hold back and work the steps dishonestly with myself, going through the motions instead of really changing.

I feel that the every day work will help me grow in discipline and habit. Exercise, study, overcoming procrasination, are all things that I need to begin doing every day to truly form a habit and make progress, and I know this will be the same, instead of just coming back and working hard when I relapse.

I don't know. I need to gain the belief that the change I make now, with this daily work and with the work with my therapist, can be a different kind of change, instead of the temporary ones I have made in the past. I need to develop a new view of God, and know Him in a new way. My view of a Higher Power has become riddled with doubt in the past couple of years. But I do think that now is the best time to do this, as it could always be worse and I need to gain sanity and sobriety before I am in a relationship.

I am much more connected. To my therapist, to people in that group, to 12-step groups and sponsors. Connection, and daily effort, are what I have lacked in the past.

I will need to leave behind my false view of myself, and the ego that I present to other people. This is the version of me that hides this addiction, that shouldn't have to deal with it, that isn't at fault for it, and that doesn't have this weakness. Even if I want people to see me that way, that person doesn't exist. The version of me that can fix this all by himself, or can still hold onto being relaxed and unengaged in daily recovery, doesn't exist either. I'll need to let go of the idea that I can do this that way, and that I'll be happier if I don't do the work necessary to gain sobriety and recovery.

Yes, I actually am. I have done 12 steps in the Addiction Recovery Program (ARP) but I have learned, grown, and developed so much since then and the ARP is more generic to addictions of all kinds.

I hope that I will gain more strength in sobriety and draw closer to my Higher Power.

I worry that I may just check boxes or that I may fail to really put my whole heart into it and relapse.

I have seen how dailies and routines help me tremendously. I feel like working the steps on a day to day basis will work for me.

Yes! I have been trying to do this for a long time and have had some good success. I am beyond ready!

I have a firm foundation of therapy, group work, knowledge from books and podcasts, etc. that this will be a solid effort.

Willing and open to leaving anything behind that keeps me from changing for the better.